She has insecurities. But she seriously might also be crazy. (Although I remind myself you all might be...) I love this girl, but she keeps me around, just close enough, but if I get too close, BAM! she's gone. Seriously, what do I do to see if she will commit? Asking hasn't worked. I am worried because I am starting to resent her indecision.
2006-12-09 03:44:07 · 10 answers · asked by randyken 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm not a chick, but I've dealt with enough women to know where this is going. Buddy, let me tell you something that took me a while to learn: women know if they're going to sleep with you within FIVE MINUTES of meeting you. If you're not on the list right away, you're NEVER going to be on the list. Women are creatures that work heavily on feeling and emotion (they like to label it as "chemistry," but the effect is the same), so if you don't get those juices flowing right away, they never will.
Sorry to be the bearer of bad news. But at least you can stop wasting your life on some chick who is never going to return the feeling.
2006-12-09 03:48:21 · answer #1 · answered by Steve 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This is standard female behaviour towards someone on the "friends" ladder. Read up on "ladder theory". She doesn't LIKE you. She keeps you around because you DO THINGS FOR HER. You are in fact her emotional tampon. Good for you.
Now get your **** together and move on. Incidentally, how many years have you wasted on this girl? Too many is the answer. You can try to keep going, but doing what miss Krissy Hip says will get you a sexual assault charge real quick.
2006-12-09 12:17:42 · answer #2 · answered by Solaris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've already seen her lack of commitment. Give her lots of space, and if she really wants you, you'll see it. If you're looking for commitment, you should probably move on - it sounds like this girl has issues, that you can do nothing about. We all have insecurities, some people deal with them differently. It sounds like hers are affecting you.
2006-12-09 11:53:13 · answer #3 · answered by Bondgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow... insecurities are hard to deal with. plus the fact that she sounds possessive. thats not really the kind of girlfriend you'd want to be with coz otherwise, you'll just end up arguing and fighting everyday.. and thats a lot of drama to deal with. tell her exactly how ur feeling and if you think that its just not getting any better, then as much as it would hurt, let her go. coz lets be true, the longer u keep her, the more u hurt urself.. i wish u all the best
2006-12-09 11:51:04 · answer #4 · answered by janna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she may be in doubts about her feelings towards you. If she doesn't want to commit herself to you, forget her. I think when someone loves another there is no place for insecurities. Women like to have boys around interested in them, because they feel special, you know? But she doesn't love you. Good luck!
2006-12-09 12:30:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it's time to step away and stop bugging her about it. As you already know women are very indecisive. We are that way because we don't want to end up with someone that is going to do us wrong!
2006-12-09 11:48:06 · answer #6 · answered by Ms.Deb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. She ain't gonna commit.
2. You are her back-up plan. You're not a bad boy, are you? You have a job, don't you?
3. Tell her you're not an emotional tampon, and tell her to **** off.
4. Go here: www.mgtow.com
5. Unplug.
2006-12-09 12:16:41 · answer #7 · answered by Kelly M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
im sorry to say this but she probably likes you but just not enough to commit. you should try playing hard to get (stop calling, make yourself busy) and see how she reacts to that. chances are she'll want you more.
2006-12-09 11:48:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well SHE DON'T LIKE YOU ahem she doesn't like you man. move on
2006-12-09 11:47:58 · answer #9 · answered by mbm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go for it. u'll never know if u don't try.
2006-12-09 11:59:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋