i have 2 kids a boy 7 and a girl 8 should i spank them both or just one the girl is always getting in trouble?

Answer 1

why would you spank the child that isn't getting in trouble? you would basically be punishing them for good behavior. that makes no sense. instead of spanking for bad behavior, try to set up a rewards system for good behavior. that way the child who is good is getting rewarded and the bad child isn't.

Answer 2

well don't just spank to spank have a reason. Punish them equally for things they do wrong. If the same thing is done wrong dont spank one because she is usually getting into more trouble and if the boy does the same thing because he usually does not. If you are spanking spank only as a last resort and make sure the punishment fits the crime. but no, don't spank just to spank and be consistant, punish the same way for both children. The girl may wind up getting spanked more but if the boy does the same thing, punish him the same way.

Answer 3

At that age they should be old enough to know what they have done wrong. If I were you, I would only punish the one that is doing the damage. Only get on to the one that does the bad deed and point out to the other that this is what happens if they were to do something like it. A favorite toy taken away, or time away from friends, time out in bedroom, stand in the corner, or make them do some chores as punishment if spanking them doesnt do the trick. Good luck to you.

Answer 4

you should just spank the girl that is getting in trouble because she is the only one. why should the boy who isnt doing anything and is completely innocent get spanked for no reason. then the boy will learn that if he does anything wrong like the sister did, he will get spanked also

Answer 5

If you are goign to spank you have to spank them both. If the boy does something bad he should be spanked and if the girl does something bad then she should be sp;anked. No question about it

you cant say if the girl does something bad she gets a spankign
if the boy does something bad he gets a time out

that is ridiculous

Answer 6

Neither. These days you can get into serious trouble for spanking your kids. Back in the day..game on. If kids got out of line..you could take the belt or even the back hand to them without any consequences.
There are other forms of punishment. Pls consider them.

Answer 7

First, you have to decide if you want to use spanking as a disciplinary measure. If you decide that you do, you should be consistent in its use, employ it judiciously, and treat both children equally. I don't believe in double standards.

I also think you should deal with each child individually. If one child does something to deserve a spanking, then he or she should get it. But DON'T spank both of them when only one is misbehaving.

Answer 8

Maybe you should reevaluate your parenting. I used to spank and I found that I was only doing it when they had made me so angry and I just wanted them to listen to me. I actually wanted them to be afraid of it. Why would you want your child to be afraid of you?

I come from a Christian home where we were always taught to spank. Now we do timeouts and a lot more reasoning and my kids are a LOT more behaved than they ever were. TALK to them and figure out what the problem actually is.

Is she bored and therefore finds herself getting into trouble? Maybe you need to find more activities for her and keep her busy. It took a lot for me to realize that much of the misbehavior was because my kids were bored out of their minds. And I was the one at fault! You also need to teach them how to handle their anger. If you show them that when you get mad at something they do, your reaction is to hit them for it, then that is how they will learn to handle their own anger.

If she misbehaves, take her fave thing away for a week. Don't allow her in the room with the tv. Don't let her go to her friends house. Don't let her go to dance class. That sort of thing. I guarantee that will have a bigger effect. Spanking made me fearful of my parents, while having something taken away made me mad that I couldn't have it and I remembered the next time.

Answer 9

Try spending more time with the kids. You obviously have a lot of growing up to do.
Ignore "Dr G", it's obvious if you turn to Q&A for parenting advise, I would be concerned as to what you would call a "spanking". Corporal punishment should only be used very rarely and never if you are angry.
Try gaining their respect and use logic when correcting them.
BETTER STILL GET HELP

Answer 10

THE ONLY time you want to spank your kids if they know that they did something wrong. If it was both of them that did the worng thing then spank both of them if say it was you boy who did something worng spank him or if it was your girl that did the worng thing then spank her. DONT spank for every little thing that they did worng. Just spank them for the big thing that they did worng. If you spank them for little thing then they will be come afiard of you.