and then got pregnant but said that you were not expected to play any part would that be alright with you?
2006-12-09 03:09:47 · 23 answers · asked by Gillian 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Is it alright with you to be a dad?Yes,it was wrong of her to lie but wrong of you to not use a condom.She has no right to stop you from being part of the babies life and it won't help if you're holding a grudge either...
2006-12-09 03:32:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
God no. I might even try to adopt it.
I think I understand your problem. You want someone to look after your child when you die and you think a brother or sister would do that.
Listen there is no guarentee that this child will even what to look after your son. You might end up giving birth to the most narcissistic child imaginable that thinks of your son has "the retard" rather than it's brother.
And whats to say that if you sleep with a guy and don't tell him, that someday you new child will meet somebody and they will also be his child.
Meaning that because they're brother and sister without knowing that will give birth to disabled babies, maybe even have miscarrages. How can you do that to so many people for just one person?
A new child needs love, it should not be born just to serve a purpose. It may move country, want a life. Your son might even die before this new child becomes a teenager.
A new born baby needs a child hood not a course in how to look after it's brother.
If your going to die soon then you could have your son adopted just a few days before you die.
Please don't go through with this. Maybe this child will be disabled too and then what will you do?
My advice to you is:
1.) Calm down and talk to a doctor
2.) Find someone that loves you, don't hurry around and PICK someone, FIND somebody, you don't need to have a second child. Maybe if this guy and your son get on he will keep in touch with your son when you die... maybe his cousins kids will take care of you son.
How are you meant to support two kids and take care of both off them. What happens if your new child had coth death after you get you tube removed?
Your heading for trouble. Don't sink to those levels.
Be a mother to your son and live. Don't bring life into this world just to be a replacement. You know it's wrong, that why your so defensive.
Your a hero to your son, don't destroy your life and his, because he will remember you has the villian. I can promise you that.
2006-12-09 09:02:08 · answer #2 · answered by Michelino 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I bloody wouldn't. It would show that the lying b**ch had used you as a sex toy thinking that you wouldn't find out. I would also be annoyed that my parents would chop my balls off for having underage sex (hopefully not literally). I definitely wouldn't sleep with her again and I'm sure it's hard knowing that you've got a child out there somewhere who you've got no contact or anything with. Just think about the child's feelings.
I really do hope you're not asking this question out of personal experience.
2006-12-09 05:00:55 · answer #3 · answered by dayle123 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That would be a personal choice and decision. Each person would react differently. But no it would not be allright with me if I was you. the bottom line is you are going to be a father, and before you do accept any responsibility get a blood test done and take it from there.
2006-12-09 03:14:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
When are guys going to learn they can tell you one thing but after the kiddy is born then your in for it,not many children come into the world with out alto of input from the guy
2006-12-09 03:19:46 · answer #5 · answered by barnowl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been reading ur questions and i think you need to speak to a proffessional and ur parents to find out what ur options are for the future. Posting questions on here is not gonna give u what u need because we don't have the full picture.
Good luck x
2006-12-09 03:30:34 · answer #6 · answered by sammyantha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That would be so gutter on her part. That exactly why even with birth control ......YOU STILL USE A RUBBER...... Because there are females out there like that. I would still want to be in the childs life if she got pregant, and I would fight for my visitation rights, so I could see my child, and to also piss her off.
2006-12-09 03:20:59 · answer #7 · answered by ill_state00 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i cant believe you are still asking baby questions!you probably dont know the first thing about having kids,i mean,thats what the world needs right now,more dumb *** teeny mothers who expect everyone else to pick up the pieces of their stupidity.I dont care what is going on in two years,your stupid,irresponsible,and immature.And thats just a polite way of putting it.
2006-12-09 09:21:52 · answer #8 · answered by pinkydinkydoo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it happened to me years ago i now have a 17 year old son that i do not see because his mother wont tell him about me which saddens me a lot because he does not live that far from me and i would love to be a part of his life to,
I just long for the day to come when we can be together?
2006-12-09 04:15:11 · answer #9 · answered by arthur3home 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO that would be really bad to do for someone. I would never havea interst in a woman like that. People wh o lies have no chance in a relationship
2006-12-09 03:16:14 · answer #10 · answered by Norway 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋