About six months ago, I overheard a lady coworker telling her friend about a new employee in the company. " This guy is gorgeous. This is the one I have been waiting for. Watch me make him propose to me six months."
Then she fixed him coffee every morning in the office. She baked cookies for him. She baked cake on his birthday, for the whole department. She started getting these "free tickets" for the local events where she took him. And guess what. He just proposed to her !
Is this the way "love" works ? Doesn't it sound too mechanical and manipulative ? Or is it OK ? Is she going to be this nice to him after marriage ?
2006-12-09 03:05:05 · 6 answers · asked by ben c 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That depends on her. Both men and women try very hard to get the opposite sex to be attracted to them.
But true love doesnt wary, no matter how they might change.
2006-12-09 03:09:32 · answer #1 · answered by rhea 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is SAD... no this is not how the love works...
the woman is too manupulative... she has manipulated him. poor guy... all the guys need mothering in life... and thats what the woman played upon... you just know the half of the story.. the one which was public... we dont know what happened in their private lives... maybe they have good sex... that might also be the thing that made him propose to her... i am sure the woman did not love him when he first came to work there... but women know somehow that this one is a good husband material... i hope she is in love with him now.... i am sure the man also thinks he loves her (more because - he thinks she loves him - most of us do that coz there are not many people who shower us with so much love and attention - so we fall for the first one who does it).. hope they will have a fine marriage - the kind of arranged marriage which are made by practical decisions more than emotional ones.
but then thats not how LOVE should be.... its the most natural feeling... this kind of mechanical love is the reason for so many divorces in the world these days.... I am happy I was lucky... i got the real love in life....
2006-12-09 11:16:37 · answer #2 · answered by HavingFun!!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This doesn't sound like true love, especially because of the "watch me make him propose" part.
True love is caring about someone deep down inside of you, loving him for who he truly is, and wanting only the best for him. (That's a very brief description, but those are the basics.)
This sounds a good deal too selfish to be love, because it sounds like she was doing all those things just to attract him, not because she wanted him to be happy. And doing things for the one you love isn't about buying them stuff or baking cookies, it's also about telling them you love them, knowing the right thing to say, knowing all the little things that will make them happy. I really fear for the happiness of their marriage... because I doubt she's going to be that nice to him after marriage, unless her thoughts have changed and now she loves him.
2006-12-09 11:13:46 · answer #3 · answered by maethoriel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hook, line and sinker approach. It's not right, but it happens. What she forgot to remember is, in 6 months she learned nothing about this man. Of course he will be nice to her, she's catering to his needs. And, on the flip side, it's going to be a rude awakening to him when she stops all this game playing and real her comes out.
I wish him luck in finding a good divorce lawyer!
2006-12-09 11:10:46 · answer #4 · answered by deanie1962 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she is normally nice then things could be ok..but manipulating some one into loveing you is not a good thing
2006-12-09 11:09:02 · answer #5 · answered by as 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys would do the same thing!!! Some guys do anyway!!! Good for her, she got her man.
2006-12-09 11:09:17 · answer #6 · answered by winona e 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋