i cant fight my feelings, i have no girlfriend,everyfriend of mine has,i dont know wat to do,,plz guide me??

Question

i am studying in japan,doing BBA ,i am doing part time job,as its hard for my family to support ,all friends of mine have girlfriends,they also stay with girls in night and have fun, i feel sometimes really very bad i dont know what to do will making a girlfriend will solve my problem? or i should live like this i have many friends but still i feel very lonley,i need girl which i can realy on ,i am really confused and upset i feel like a loser please help me out........thanks

Answer 1

Try the personals online. It sounds strange, but lots of people do it nowadays. Match.com or whatever they have in Japan.

RJ

Answer 2

I think that first you need to realize the great strides that you are making in realizing your dreams. There are very few people who would do what you are doing, and like anything in life, it is not meant to be easy, otherwise I don't believe that we would want it that badly...I don't think that you judge yourself according to whether or not you have a girlfriend. I think that you should be more confident in yourself and in your capabilities- both as a student and in your future career, but above all as a great human being. I don't believe that you will ever get a decent girlfriend by this "desperate" attitude. Don't your hopes and dreams that a girl can make things a lot better or solve all your problems. What love can do, and with that I don't anyone can argue, is that it can make life a little easier to handle, you feel a little bit more invincible than you usually do. But until you gain confidence in yourself, you will not get the girl that you want to be with. It seems to me that you are looking for some meaningful relationship, since friends are great, but you do feel lonely. You mustn't feel desperate because you are not. Everything that you do, is by your choice alone, and I'm sure that when you would come across that girl, you will get her.
I hope this helps.

Answer 3

If you are feeling upset and confused, do you think a girl will see any qualities in you? Besides, you want a girlfriend because all your friends have girlfriends?! And if you are thinking that you can rely on a girl, you're seriously wrong. A girl needs to rely on you just as much as you rely on her.

Find meaning in what you are doing right now and take up a hobby. You need positive self esteem before a girl will find you attractive.

Answer 4

I operate just fine without a girl being present in my life, and have been that way for a year and a half. I'm so used to this lifestyle, that if I were to share a house with someone, it would cause me to be more unstable than I already am because a good 99% of my life has been single! Being alone is all I know, basically. That's why I'm never getting married. Trust me, dude, what you have is what married people sometimes desire.

Answer 5

hey dude thats natural if u r in youth and in latter years of ur life u will ur self laugh at what u used 2 feel some years ago.all ur friends are carrying a headache that doesn't mean that u should also have one ur lucky that u dont have one .about ur lonelyness, it can b solved when u keep ur self busy with other very important matters .and remember u got 2 care 4 ur family too and such trivial matters shall not bother u at all.give importance 2 ur career and future if u have success then girls r around u then u will feel like getting rid of them so dont bother for such things and take very good care of ur self for those who really care 4 u ....ALL THE BEST

Answer 6

So I figure your from South Asia somewhere by your name. Well I would just send back to where ever you come from and see if they can arrange you a marriage. I think if we still had arranged marriages in America we would have less divorce. Arranged marriages would also save alot of teenaged broken hearts and allows for more study time. The other thing is, from what I hear, Japanese girls are really stuck up and are not interested in anyone else other than Japanese guys. I'm no expert on relationships or contemporary Asian culture, but thats what I've heard.

Answer 7

Sounds like you should take a lot more pride in what you are trying to accomplish. You are going to school and working, you are taking care of business, good for you. You should be proud of yourself. There is a right time to have a girlfriend you seem pretty busy right now. Just take it slow and try find a girl that is willing to only have you part time. I think your studies should come first.

Answer 8

hey pankaj wel i feel that u shud not have a girlfriend just bcoz ur friends have an u r lonely i knw how it feels but u shud let love happen an i assure u it will surprise u wen u least expect it dont get into relatnshp for fun u might hurt someone an plz u r not a loser

Answer 9

Be patient and relax , eventually Miss Right will soon come into your life. In the meantime enjoy your single blessedness. Aloneness does not necessarily mean loneliness. Look for an interesting hobby to occupy your mind and at the same time develop your personality.

Answer 10

In one way it is good there is no girlfriend. At least you can concerntrate on your studies otherwise there is every chance that she may distract you from your goal. If you become something in life, you may find lot of girlfriends. Dont feel sorry for these temporary relations of young age which are generally passtime or infatuation.

Answer 11

hi if u looking for a serious relationship u can have a girlfriend it doesn't matter whether ur frends have a gal n u dnt if u want to get rid of loneliness get a frend who s like u n there s nothing to feel bad wen ur frends stay with gals u should be determined n should have will power make lots of friends then u won't feel lonely have a close buddy to whom u can share ur feelings