The girls have smart mouths, tried the "bribe techniques", nothing works, I am a single mom.
2006-12-09 02:54:50 · 8 answers · asked by Kara D 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Try taking away the things they love the most (toys, TV time, etc...). My son got a rude awakening when I started doing that. Best of luck!
2006-12-09 03:01:20 · answer #1 · answered by noonee333 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that this might sound like it's easier said than done, but I've found it works with older children (7-8). If they're acting out, ignore them and don't say anything until they're quiet. When they don't get a reaction I will calmly ask them if they think what they're doing is appropriate and tell them to stop and what will happen if they don't (time-out, loss of privileges, etc.) I only tell them once, I find repetition and yelling only makes them ignore me. In your case you could try telling them you're disappointed or that they will be getting a time out. Also, bribing is not a great idea. It teaches the children that if they break the rules you will give them something they want. Instead, they should have to earn privileges by behaving properly. The most important thing is consistency! Every time they misbehave, they need to be punished in a similar manner so they can learn their boundaries. Ideally they should be punished right away, if you try to take away privileges the next day, they won't really associate it with their negative actions the day before. Good luck!
2006-12-09 03:19:25 · answer #2 · answered by blue 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is what my sister does with her 5 year old twins...she bought 2 big, plastic storage box and on the front of each she put a lable 1 saying "Max's Toys" and 1 saying "Rosey's Toys" then if they're naughty 1 of their favourite toys is put in the box. They can't get them back until they earn them back (your descretion!). They're much better behaved now because they know they lose things to play with if they're naughty, and they compete agaisnt each other! Like they get all pleased with themselves if 1 of them only has 1 toy n the box when the other has five in there. Also she puts them out of reach but so they can still see what they're missing, a reason why the box's are see-through. Good Luck!
2006-12-09 03:09:06 · answer #3 · answered by Andie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start taking things away from them that they adore. But you are the parent you should not be bribing them it is what ever you says go! You should not have to always compromise sometimes but not a lot especially if they are being disrespectful! Spankings always help to or a little pop in the mouth. Anothee great one is to ignore them when they ask for something they want, and then explain to them remember when mommy asked you to stop and you kept on being bad well now you can not have it (goes back into what I was saying about taking things away from them). Also re-try time out send them to separate rooms and keep them ther for 20 mins they are old enough for a 20 min time out. Good luck! Hopefully nothing I have said offended you
2006-12-09 03:03:45 · answer #4 · answered by Caleema L 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you don't want to bribe them!! you are the adult you have to act accordingly. i get down to my son's eye level and very sternly tell him that "we don't talk like that" or "that's not how nice boys talk" and then i put him on the stairs (or corner, or wherever) for 2 minutes since he's two years old. he'll cry and be upset and after the two minutes, i go back to the stairs and re-explain why he's sitting there and make him apologize and then kisses and hugs and continue with our day. if he gets up, then i put him back on the steps and tell him that the time starts over again. it'll be very difficult the first few days but you'll notice a TREMENDOUS difference as long as you stick to your guns. you are the adult and if you let them walk all over you now, imagine 5-10 years from now. be stern and strict and you'll be just fine. good luck!!
2006-12-09 03:15:43 · answer #5 · answered by chingona1027 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I also have a 4yr old daughter with the same problem,and just like you I had tried it all and it didn't work.So eventually I just started telling her how disappointed in her I was for talking like that.Children are very in tune with reactions as they are still learning boundaries.So next time they say something that you don't approve of show how extremely disappointed you are in their behavior!This does work best if you combine it with making them stand in the corner after explaining to them why your disappointed and why it's wrong to say things like that!
2006-12-09 03:06:40 · answer #6 · answered by leah7waianetta 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take away a favorite toy or no watching TV until they do not do it anymore and you have to be consistent. Like if you say "no TV for two days." Make sure you stick to it.
2006-12-09 03:04:38 · answer #7 · answered by Edith Piaf 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
spare the rod, spoil the child.
2006-12-09 03:06:35 · answer #8 · answered by sm177y 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋