i work in an office, and have done for 2 years. there are only four of us (including myself). when we went out for our christmas meal the other night me and my boss were talking and one thing led to another. he asked me out on a proper date just the two of us for tomorow. i am really like him but dont want this to cause problem with my job if for some reason t does not all go to plan. should i go with him or just fob him of with excuses.
2006-12-09 02:40:33 · 20 answers · asked by jane w 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
why not?
2006-12-09 02:42:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you should tell him exactly what you are concerned about. He should understand. If things do go bad, who do you think will have to find another job? You of course, since he is the boss.
If you decide to do this be prepared for jealousy from your coworkers. Take things really slow and keep it informal, maybe out with friends or meet at a location and leave separately. For god's sake don't sleep with him. lol Not for a long while anyway. You will find out if he really likes you if you hold his interest when he's not getting "lucky"
Since you've had this job for 2 years, I assume you are content with it. Just listen to your inner voice, if it doesn't feel right don't do it. If you usually keep friendships with ex-boyfriends there probably won't be a problem if it doesn't work out.
Good luck--Dating the boss "you go girl" lol
2006-12-09 02:49:56 · answer #2 · answered by summertime 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it. You have to weigh the value of having your job against the value of going on a date with the boss. Which do you need more? Which is more likely to be the best thing for you? If you see a life with this man and know that he will always take care of you, then take a chance I guess but if it is just for a date, forget it.
2006-12-09 02:46:54 · answer #3 · answered by A B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be very honest, and office romances are very dangerous. If the relationship does not work out, it is very difficult to deal with working with that person and especially a boss would make it even more difficult. A really bad idea. Just be honest with him and tell him you do not date co-workers, if it were not for that the two of you could date. God bless****
2006-12-09 02:43:59 · answer #4 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you plan to find another job NOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!!!
You will be the one to pay. You may be labeled the company slut, the other employees may start saying he is treating you better because he is physically with you. You may lose a lot of respect from everyone in the end including him.
And let us not forget the breakup. Let's be honest what are the chances of marrying this guy really. How do you think it is going to be working with a man you broke up with?
NAY a 1000 time NAY!!
2006-12-09 02:45:20 · answer #5 · answered by P&B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
fob him of with excuses. if u date ur boss u will definitely get special treatment or maybe not, considering that he might have a plan by ignoring u at work or something. but, if the aother workers found out, ur in danger!! they will probably ignore u and let u do all the work.
2006-12-09 02:52:15 · answer #6 · answered by Hamdi93 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Foe your sirst date state specifically that you want him to know theres a barrier between your personal life and your career. Say you'd like him and want this relationship to work, but also say that you dont want it to bring you any problems at work. And by that you mean, when you at work with him your relationship is a boss and his employee.
Outlining specifically would also give him the idea your not using him for you career, and vice versa, It would lessen your chances also of career damage.
But dating your boss is risky, know the risk and remember them.
2006-12-09 02:45:51 · answer #7 · answered by rhea 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am seeing that everyone is saying no but from personal experience i have dated my boss and now we have been together for 4 years now and we are getting married February 13 the day me met so instead of thinking of the things that can go wrong think of the things that can go right
2006-12-11 11:10:12 · answer #8 · answered by dam 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i've got not dated any bosses i've got had, yet i've got customary some people who did, and it wasn't a tremendously photograph. you're in a tricky spot to be particular, yet i think of the question you may ask is that in case you'll be courting this guy in any respect. i comprehend you're unlikely to "grab him off his woman", whether that is particularly a probability (even incredibly probable) that he's flirting with you because of the fact he's gloomy along with his modern courting. Wether you have emotions for him or not, he's in a reasonably super mess right now that would desire to drag out for months and years, and whether he left his woman the following day, you may maximum unquestionably get drawn into the themes that have been to persist with. My advice to you would be thus far different persons and overlook approximately your boss for a on an identical time as. He needless to say has plenty on his plate and his intentions are skewed because of the fact he's gloomy and he should not be flirting around if he remains in a courting. If he's been in a courting with somebody for 7 years yet is flirting around earlier that is even over, who's to assert he can not furnish you the comparable (or worse) therapy? the suitable component you're able to do is to teach your interest someplace else and enable him settle his problems. in case you incredibly like him, then watch for him to confirm each thing (and actually confirm it, which incorporates felony themes he's probable to stand concerning his new child) after which see the place you stand. For the 2nd nevertheless, this guy appears like he needs some sugar with you earlier status up and being a guy and searching after his customary jobs, and why could you incredibly choose a guy like that who's in simple terms as probable to flirt around with different women while he's with you if issues are not as much as par with what he needs? I choose you success, and in case you incredibly have your heart set, then wait, yet in any different case i could say this guy sounds tremendously immature and irresponsible and can be prevented in case you do not prefer to get harm or drawn into the fights that are particular to ensue if he leaves his woman. suitable of success
2016-12-13 05:43:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think you shoud go out with your boss because you should never mix buisness with pleasure.One day you and your boss will have a disagreement on or off the job. and it might affect your job depending on the answer you give him. So dont risk your job on a one night dinner with your boss.
2006-12-09 02:48:58 · answer #10 · answered by Raynette S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to choose one of the following:-
OPTION 1. If you go on date you loose respect in the eyes of your colleagues, your self and even your boss in the long run.
OPTION 2. If you don't go on date you may loose your job. Might be your boss is testing you, what kind of girl you are.
So decide keeping in view the future aspect of you answer to your boss.
Logical answer is OPTION 2.
2006-12-09 02:58:15 · answer #11 · answered by Atif Mirza 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋