My husband works second shift, I work first. I have two young boys, one of six and a half and the other is two and a half. I always get soooo nervous when my husband and I are going to live by ourselves because that means that I will have to stay by myself in the evenings with my two boys.We are moving to an apartment next week and were currently living with my Mother and Father. I suffered through "Post Partum Depression/Anxiety" a couple of years ago, but I do not take any medication anymore, because I realized that that was just not me and I had to appreciate life more and appreciate what I had.I get so freak'n mad at myself when I get nervouse and scared, I mean, I think, "I have God with me in my thoughts and heart, why am I scared?" I practically would have to stay alone from like 6:00pm-1:00am when my husband gets home.All I do now is just think about that, and it makes me sick.I just think that I will never overcome this feeling that I have and my husband cant always understand
2006-12-09 02:39:43 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
I live alone with my daughter. It is scary sometimes, but you make it through it. Once it gets dark I usually just keep my porch light on, so if someone comes to the door I can see who it is. I keep the doors and windows locked and my cell phone with me all the time. I've told my daughter to never answer the door at night till I see who it is.
I also have a friend that will come by and check on me if I get scared or hear anything weird.
2006-12-09 02:44:20 · answer #1 · answered by his wife 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I understand how you feel. My husband works crazy shifts and sometimes is gone from 4pm til the next day. Just keep yourself occupied and go about your daily chores. By keeping yourself busy, you don't have time to think of all the "what if's" that happen when you are alone. By all means, don't let your sons know that you are frightened; it will only make them scared as well. Make sure your house is secured (doors and windows locked). And don't let too many unnecessary ppl know that your hubby isn't @ home. Before going to bed, do a once over of the house again, say your prayers and ask God to keep you and your family safe. Get a good night's rest. It works for me and my two small daughters. Good luck.
2006-12-09 10:46:29 · answer #2 · answered by Sherbert 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes, my husband works 3rd shift, he is gone from 9pm to 6:30am and I am home with our three children. We live in the country so once in a while i'll get spooked by a car pulling into our driveway to turn around. For the most part being alone at night does not bother me, i have the time to myself and the bed to myself. I only see my husband on the weekends and we both like it that way. dont be scared you are going to be so busy with the kids from 6pm on, dinner, homework, baths getting ready for the next school day, cleaning up after the boys, by the time they go to bed you will welcome a little time to yourself. Perhaps try watching a funny movie or reading a good book. Just keep busy until you go to bed. If you still have anxiety and cant sleep try a glass of wine and a warm bath to relax you. Then lie in bed on your back, starting with your toes tense up and relax your muscles, then do your feet, then do your ankles then your calves. Move your way up tensing and relaxing your muscles for a count of 10. Also cut out caffein after 1pm and dont smoke these things make anxiety worse. Good Luck
2006-12-09 11:02:22 · answer #3 · answered by joolee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A similar problem happened to my mother when she had us as children since my dad would work in the States while we would stay back home in the Netherlands...so hunny..what about being alone without yoru husband for maybe a week or 2 every single month???
2006-12-09 11:23:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh sweetie, you will be fine! Believe me once you get this alone time you will learn to cherish it! You can sit in peace paint your nails, read a book, play an online game, stretch out over the bed by yourself and not have to hear him snore!
Yes you will miss him I'm sure, but I think that you will find that some time to yourself is just what you needed!
2006-12-09 10:42:58 · answer #5 · answered by Kels 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yeah i am a single mom of 3 and so we are alone alot but i keep a knife under mattress, the couch, and i have a key chain alarm that you press and it is loud as heck. so i feel safe. just dont be telling anyone you are there alone. some one could here that you dont want to hear.
2006-12-09 10:42:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
enjoy your self ,with the time alone take up reading or crafts ,watch t.v. don`t think of it as being alone, think of it as me time..your boys will not let you have me time when they are older
if you are afraid ..get you a safety bar for your door [you wedge it under the door knob and against the floor ,]...
2006-12-09 11:01:16 · answer #7 · answered by alleykhad607 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, either you live in a bad neighborhood and have a right to be scared, or you really should take some drugs for it find a differnet type of drug if you dont like the side affects.
2006-12-09 10:43:06 · answer #8 · answered by tomhale138 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
The fear comes from Satan, God never wants to harm us. It's true.
2006-12-09 11:41:23 · answer #9 · answered by docie555@yahoo.com 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋