I am a grown woman, have done well in life, however like anyone made mistakes. I am too nice to tell my family to piss off when it comes to their unwanted opinions on what is going on with my life and what they think I should do. How do I tell them (or not) that I don't want to hear what they have to say - going home for Christmas and I know I'm going to hear tons of unwanted advice.
2006-12-09 02:17:11 · 19 answers · asked by daff73 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Just smile when they give advice and then do whatever you want to do.Be nice and enjoy the holidays then do your own thing!
2006-12-09 02:20:48 · answer #1 · answered by IT'S JUST ME ! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it's hard plucking up the courage and sometimes the things they say really get your blood boiling.Been there done that but though I enjoy them not putting their noses in anymore kin of miss them too.Weird stuff,must be cause I got so used to it.I planned ahead and thought about all the times I listened to their advice and all blew up in my face.So when they decided to tell me something,I brought all those times up and ended off with."I apreciate the fact that you care and want to help me out,I do BUT I'm a grown woman and the road I travel is my own.I'd rather have my family not worry about my problems cause,Iknow I can sort it out on my own.So please in future let me make my own choices and live my life!"They might not take it well and if they don't,do not sit there and be attacked,walk out.They will soon realise you meant every word you said...
Goodluck...
2006-12-09 03:26:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have that problem too. I just try to stay away from them. I'm 18 and in high school. Can't wait to move out. Maybe at the Christmas party only spend as much time as you have to with them and maybe play with the kids or help them open or help in the kitchen or something. Otherwise you just kind of have to ignore it, just bs them, "yes, yes you're always right" and just decide early on that you're not going to let it bother you. It does bother me though. Just because in general I don't like it when anyone tells anyone else what to do
2006-12-09 02:22:08 · answer #3 · answered by leena 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seem to be bearing the burden alone! I know what it is like , having nagging mum and others who want to control my life for me! Basically, i am an adult with learning disabilities but that does not mean that i do not know anything about relationships! I have beein and out of them(relationships) at least 5 times in a row. Am holding on to 6th and hopefully last relationship. I never did want to be the playboy type! Honest!
2006-12-09 02:22:28 · answer #4 · answered by whiteranger2003 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have heard this before, and not to be roude but it's in my family too. And it happens every year. One thing everyone ( my dad) tells me to do is just "yes" them to death...not really to death but you know. But another way is listen to what they have to say. I know you probley don't want to hear it or you've heard it a million time, but after you've heard what they have said you can just state back that your thankfull for the information and that you might look into using it. You really don't have to use it, but it gives them a sense of that they are older but that you also understand what they are saying too. Well I hope this helps and everything works out for the best.
~italy_water
2006-12-09 02:22:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Turn the tables on them - tell them "Well now that you have given me such good advice on running my life I'm going to give you some good advice on running yours... for starters it might be best if you stopped telling other people what to do especially if they are grown adults and you really should be concentrating on your own life anyway". That might make them shut up for a while.
2006-12-09 02:21:41 · answer #6 · answered by Paul H 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I hear u on that. I am in the same boat right now and i to don't have it in me to tell them how i feel. I wish family would learn to stop commenting on our life unless they have been asked. I just stick it out and pretend they aren't talking to me and blow them off. I don't need there crap especially at the holidays.
2006-12-09 02:23:43 · answer #7 · answered by ROSIE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the subsequent time she begins asking questions both answer her certainly or say, "you do not opt for to understand the answer to that, so why ask?" finally she'll get to the point of TMI and could not opt for to understand some thing anymore. If she makes a press release of disapproval, only say, "You requested, so I informed. i'm a grown female and it is the decision I made."
2016-11-30 08:46:38 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand that you live on your own, if you don't, then do so the soonest. Your parents like mine are over protective and they mean well, they don't realize that they become a pain with their consistent advice and reproaches. Be patient!
2006-12-09 02:36:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
walk out the door, don't answer the phone, ignore their comments. People like to tell others what to do because they failed with something in their life or they are one dimensional. These people are toxic and you don't need this in your life.
2006-12-09 02:24:41 · answer #10 · answered by Your #1 fan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋