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Question

There are times where I overstate things for example I kept thanking my father in law foe helping me with my car and he said you don't have to keep thanking me so much people dont do that,
How can I learn to be quick and to the point and not overstate things so much? Also I always feel the need when I walk into a room that I always have to talk and say something a relative said to me it is OK to be quiet and not always feel the need to always say something. I am very talkative. What are ways as scripture says to season my speech with salt and not overdo it?

Answer 1

this world as all kinds of people...some are outgoing, others are more introverted some are talkative and some are better listeners. if the talkers didn't talk who would the listeners listen to?

just make sure that you are listening to what people say too and not dominate the situation. there is nothing wrong with speaking when entering a room. it is kind of rude not to, don't you think?

as for the thanking part, i can understand why he said to stop. it is just awkward when people keep thanking you because what can you keep responding? "no problem, its okay, it is my pleasure, it is no big deal...etc"

just thank him when he is done and when he starts you can say, "i really appreciate your help again." leave him alone so he can work. :)

sometimes excessive talking and thanking and apologizing which you didn't mention is a sign of low self esteem. if it is the case get some confidence girl! they help you because they care!

take care! SD

Answer 2

FEAR NOT! There is hope! I used to do that very thing. Thanking someone over and over comes from the feeling of great gratitude. You are responding to that feeling outwardly by thanking your victim several times. Learn to say it one really good time, then drop it. Learn to quietly be grateful. Smile big.

Ladies have it in [our] nature to explain everything in a round-about way. Men on the other hand just get straight to the point. I 'see' it as women say things in full color and great detail while men say things in general outline and black-and-white. Both are OK as long as you do not go overboard one way or the other. Sounds like you have it bad. Just keep this challenge in mind before you speak. I used to also end up repeating myself, using the same words over and over, trying to clarify, but just sounding like a broken record. Finally I realized I could stop and ask if they understood what I was getting at. Also, in a way, the way I was talking I was sounding like I thought they were an idiot and I had to over simplify what I was saying. I did not want to sound that way and became fearful of offending. I guess that feeling is what helped me stop rambling.

Speak with your head and not with your overly emotional emotions. What is in your heart will still be known.

Answer 3

I have to agree with everyone here who advised you to tone it down a bit with the excessive thanking. As for saying something to other people in a room when you enter it, at least the first time, I was taught to do what you do: acknowledge their presence. It's the polite thing to do. If I am in a rooml and someone enters after me without saying anything, I myself feel slighted -- as if the person thought I wasn't worth an acknowledgment. Sometimes it helps to put yourself in the other person's shoes in order to sort out such things.

Answer 4

I think that this is kind of cute. nothing to worry about. I am not very talkative and i feel good around people who talk because if they do not then no one will. so do not worry i do not even see a problem here. when i walk in to a place i always say something becaus i feel it is so rude if i do not. and i feel that the people who do not answer back are not very nice. so just try to be yourself and do your best. thanking people too much is ok too but over doing it makes them take advantage of you.
best of luck to you

Answer 5

A good way not to overstate what you need to say is to choose your words very carefully. Don't feel like you need to speak up IMMEDIATELY. Take a moment, even if it feels unnatural to you, and thoughtfully decide exactly how to word what you need to say. It will come out clear and concise, as well as succinctly.

Answer 6

This actually drives me mad. People who just continue rambling on when the point has been well and truely made. I was listening to a woman just last night (it is not just a female trait though) who mad eTHE SAME POINT five times. Like five times. I got it the first time, but she had to say it five times. Five times, can you believe it. I mean, five times.

A hard one. Look for body language - a pained look around the eyes, people turning the body away.

Answer 7

People have different expectations about your behavior. You're not going to behave like everyone wants you to. As the saying goes, "You can't please all the people all the time."

Answer 8

What in the hell are you talking about?