I started to fall for someone very quickly and he the same. Shortly after we started dating his wife (they had been seperated for 16 months) asked if they could try to reconcile. He thinks that even if he is unhappy that he should try because of his kids (she was verbally and sometimes physically abusive). So, I let him go and told him to see where things work, but, it's killing me and him too. Do I still try to date him, and see if he realizes I'm the best choice, that I will never hurt him (with the chance of getting more heart broken if he does go with her) or do I let him see if things with his ex will work out. I'm miserable, I can't stand not hearing his voice, talking to him and he said it's killing him too....any advice??
2006-12-09 02:08:47 · 2 answers · asked by GreenEyedLou 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he said its killing him too then tell him how is he going to stand being with someone he doesn't love it's like he's setting his life up to be unhappy and the kids excuse is not a good one if him and his wife stil fight because like me I'd rather have my parents split up than fighting and insulting each other all the time. But DON'T let him be with both of you at the same time because he'll see that youl do whatever he wants you to do and always be his rebound and youll just fall for him even more and get hurt
2006-12-09 02:20:32 · answer #1 · answered by juliesan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This happens when you date someone who's married. This guy was ready to go back to his wife at the drop of a hat, long before he met you. He's using the kids as an excuse. Right now this guy is playing you both. He has you on hand as his extra woman and has his wife on hand as his main woman. You need to end all communications with this guy. You have no reason to be in touch with him because he's back with his wife now. It may hurt not seeing this guy, but this is nothing compared to all the hurt, drama, insults, name calling, and rejection you'll go through if you still try dating this guy. Don't worry about his problems between him and his wife, that's for him to deal with. Wanting him to see who's the best choice is competing with his wife for him to chose you. This type of going on is never good for a relationship. You'll have to always show him you're the best choice when threaten by other women. The best thing you can do for yourself is to get this guy totally out of your life and move on.
2006-12-09 13:35:47 · answer #2 · answered by merry59 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋