Tip already tried: More attention, time out, punishments, positive reinforcement words, and many other techniques.
2006-12-09 01:59:19 · 11 answers · asked by benny l 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
How old is your child?
My son was acting like that too. He is almost 2. I found out the whole problem was that he wasn't getting enough sleep. He would sleep 12 hours at night, but wouldn't have a nap during the day. After I started giving him a nap he became happier during the day and wouldn't get so cranky.
He was also hyper. I would take him outside after his naps and let him play for a couple of hours and he would wear himselfout. He would come in eat inner get a bath and go to bed.
2006-12-09 02:02:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Would you parents consider trying "Tough Love", the organisation that deals with such family problems? They are a super help. Look in the phone book.
Another group of helpful people/ideas is the 12 step programs for alcoholics (AA) or friends of alcoholics (Al-Anon), that give adults ways to cope with stress and 'baggage'. No-one can MAKE the boy change. I know! I have had a couple like that. the first on eis now a chef and doing ok. the second child, now 17 is on probation.
Another thing to do - if you have not already. . .bust the lad if he is doing illegal stuff. Tell your law enforcement. That can get the attention of a child fast.
2006-12-09 03:34:57 · answer #2 · answered by thisbrit 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Kinda depends on the age of your child. Use the word choice tho let him decide to control himself or for you to have to control where he will be acting out his bad choice. It also depends on why he is doing what ever it is he is doing. What is he doing that is out of control? We kinda need these answers to be able to effectively help you. If he is making you extremely angry, he may be trying to get your power... power struggling is chosen when the child feels like he has no control or power over anything at all. Give him more choices even if about small things, also use the words "You choose" and "it is your choice" more often, which will point out that they have power and control over their choice and what ever it is that you are giving them the choice on..... even if it is their behavior. If it is painful to you when he acts out, it could be a revenge behavior.... you need to not answer him and just change the subject or walk away to another room. In any case.... try to make him feel connected to you and the surroundings, capable of many things and making good choices is one of them, and help them to feel that they can contribute to you and others around. Have him help you with things and tell him he has done great when he does. If he messes up, let him know that it is alright to mess up some times that he is human and we all make mistakes. I hope this helps. Let me know please.
2006-12-09 02:16:18 · answer #3 · answered by Fantasy Kel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it depends on how old they are if they are younger it will be an easier habit to break but if they are older it may be harder to get him tamed. I would say more discipline, less freedom until they start calming down, and a reverse role play may help for an older/middle age child. if they see how hard it is to take on the responsibilities of a parent they may cut you some slack.
2006-12-09 02:16:19 · answer #4 · answered by boyconfused 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in the parenting classes my husband and i took for out of control teens. we were taught to make sure we let our kids know we loved them every day whether it be thru little notes, verbally, physically etc. we were also taught to use t.e.a.s.p.o.t.s (take everything away for a short period of time). and everything means "everything", tv's, stereos, game consoles, mp3 players, computer, food, clothes.... you get the picture. we've used this on our kids and it really does work. heck, they even said to take the door off of their room. i know ppl who have done that and it does work. now the punishment depending on the circumstances could be until the dishes are done, or up to 5 days is what they recommend, but not to add on days, just start the t.e.a.s.p.o.t over. it's worked wonders with my kids.
2006-12-09 15:17:55 · answer #5 · answered by Chellee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The child needs professional help. Find a therapist for the child and have the entire family also go to counseling.
If you cannot afford this then contact the child's school and ask for their help and advice.
The sooner you get the child straightened out the better.
2006-12-09 02:05:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You don't give enough details. Child's age, your gender, family situation, medical conditions...
You definitely need to talk to someone. It takes a village to raise a child.
2006-12-09 02:10:00 · answer #7 · answered by skayrkroh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
spank him u dont need to spank him so hard he has a red bum but enogh to tell him what he did was bad. if u use a belt or a paddle ect. he will fell like u do not love dont so dont beat the butt red if u dont hit him 10 hit him like 3 times if he is still a kid if he is older then hit him more times but it is up to u.
2006-12-09 03:05:13 · answer #8 · answered by runescapeslayerx 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well. maybe its not mental or just for fun. Maybe he is trying to tell you something like he is having trouble with something. Ask him.
2006-12-09 07:05:35 · answer #9 · answered by cjm 3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Beat the living daylights out of it
2006-12-09 02:08:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋