So my girlfriend and I have been going out for around a year now, we're both seniors in High School.... We've been really running into some rocky patches lately, I really used to love this girl and she was my "first love" I suppose you could say...I just dont have as much fun with her anymore, I care about her so much but I dont know if that "love" is still there anymore....
...I love talking to other girls, I'm a really big flirt and I really enjoy it..
I still REALLY CARE about this girl, but I just dont know what to do..
..any advice would be great..
2006-12-09 01:57:26 · 12 answers · asked by Bar19one 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sweetie, ur too younge to know exactly what love is, you say u care for her & caring can be for really close friends, not just girlfriends. N' u mentioned her being ur "1st love", so, with her, it's all one big experience, doeznt mean u LOVE her or REALLY fell inlove or anything, many of us go through that at that stage of life, then acouple of yearz ahead, look back& realize it wazn't love. you're going through probz with her n'u talk n'"flirt" with other gurlz but STILL care for her, which probably meanz u loved or cared for her more az a friend than a gurlfriend. If I were u, Id just ask her to cool down abit & give u space to think & realize ( iz this REALLY love, are we in a real relationship or iz it just a curiouse phaze everyone goez through ). soundz to me like u just wanted to experiment what love iz with a really close friend. Just tell her to "chillax",no need for fightz b4 u too graduate & go ur seperate wayz..she'z a dear friend to you, & it showz that u need her az a "friend".. so don't hurt her by just breaking up, instead, try spending less time with her & make the time u two spend together more "friendly" without any physical contact. I'm sure she'll like it more & a better, stronger friendship will hold u close together without the messiness of an ugly first breakup.
I feel like im goin in circlez here !! lol.. what im tryin to say iz, u want the gurl az a good friend, but nothing more .. u care for her like good friendz do, so try focusing on that side of the relationship & avoid going through "lovey-dovey" detailz with her or sayin' i love you. coz u 2obviously are not inlove!!
2006-12-09 02:17:33 · answer #1 · answered by CupCake 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How do you know it's love....hhmmm. I believe you are (or were) in love, but as you mature you now see there is a whole world awaiting. If it is TRUE love...you will know...in time. Maybe much later in life. What are your life plans? Hope you are not planning to cut her and yourself short and think that this IS THE ONE!!
Even if it is...you will cross paths again...and you'll know for sure. Keep flirting and meeting...one day you will know when you've met your last flirt...someone that will make you feel like YOU don't want to every flirt with anyone else. The kind of give up flirting that made Tom Cruise stand on Oprah's couch and say to the world I'm through flirting because I found the only woman that I will ever flirt with again. There's someone out here that will make you turn in your playa card and your black book. Until then...keep flirting.
2006-12-09 02:12:15 · answer #2 · answered by Stfani T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I'm not an expert but maybe y'all should have some time apart and explore ur options. Go see whats out there. That doesn't mean u can't get back together. If u r meant to be together then in the end u will. Just have fun and live life.
2006-12-09 02:03:18 · answer #3 · answered by elizabeth 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to do new things , to make things not so boring ,maybe your starting to feel like your relationship is becoming a routine. but if you feel like likin her has become a routine then your just with her because your used to her and youv'e forgot about how much you used to really love her. in this case u should take a break from each other and see if you can live wihout her
2006-12-09 02:07:13 · answer #4 · answered by juliesan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are just not ready for any kind of commitment. Be a man and let her know. Have a good time, you are way too young to settle down
2006-12-09 02:01:37 · answer #5 · answered by SKYDOGSLIM 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why contunue on with this roller coaster relationship? What takes place now will only gets worse if you deside stay with her any longer. Just dump her and move on to someone else new.
2006-12-09 02:07:07 · answer #6 · answered by Grandpa Shark 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll begoing to uni in a few years so give her the elbow coz there'll be plenty more where that came from!
2006-12-09 02:02:42 · answer #7 · answered by seamanspraying 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her about this, you should be able to work things out with her if you love her
2006-12-09 02:00:45 · answer #8 · answered by Duffsta 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you believe there is love left than there probably is some left ask her out and take her somewhere romantic. and talk to her.
2006-12-09 02:06:31 · answer #9 · answered by Selena J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should try talking to this girl you care about and tell her how you fell
2006-12-09 02:04:33 · answer #10 · answered by liz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋