well i have been messing up alot lately and they are all mad at me (talking about me) what should i do???
2006-12-09 01:48:39 · 18 answers · asked by Bridgette 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
No,absolutely not.Hopefully they are not talking about you behind your back because that is always counterproductive.Whatever you have been doing to mess up try to stop.Go to them and tell them how you feel.Bring everything out in the open.Trust me I was the biggest screwup in my family and there were times that I felt I was the reason for any problems they were having,I was not.Neither are you.Dont lose hope,if I turned out ok so can you!! Good Luck.
2006-12-09 01:58:43 · answer #1 · answered by Mr Bellows 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you wrote your family is falling apart.... what is your family going through that you know for a fact has nothing to do with you? Only going by what you wrote I would have to say your family is not falling apart. People mess up and hopefully you have learned from your mistakes. The lesson is not that because you messed up and people are talking about you now your family is falling apart. It means people will get upset but it doesn't mean there love for you goes away. Messing up and arguing is a part of life just like learning, forgiving and love in a family.
2006-12-09 02:07:15 · answer #2 · answered by mia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have a pretty good Idea that you are a contributing factor. Are you the only reason? Highly unlikely. Of course if you try hard enough, anything is possible. I know for sure nothing will change till you want it to. If you want things to get better, talk them into going to council with you. You should go regardless. Find a councillor that you like and trust. Work on you first and believe that things can and will get better. Be the reason your family stays together. So many do not these days. Good luck.
2006-12-09 02:14:40 · answer #3 · answered by brotherdrake2002 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am assuming you are the child in the family. A strong marriage can handle the stress of a child's flare up of bad behavior. It puts a stress on the marriage but doesn't break it. An already rocky marriage can be pushed to the brink. So, straighten up. Stop messing up and talk to your parents. But if your parents marriage falls apart be careful not to take on the responsibility for that. There are many many factors that go into making a successful marriage.
2006-12-09 01:54:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have no idea what you've done.
What i do know is when things get hard, the true colors shine through.
My husband and i have been through some heavy **** and it's brought us closer.
When there are cracks and the pressure builds up, it's going to break.
You might have been responsible for the pressure, but you are not responsible for the cracks.
Whether your pregnant, using drugs, what ever...
You as a child can not be held responsible for a family falling apart.
I don't believe any one person can be held responsible.
Talk to them if you can,
tell them how you feel.
And if possible that you love them.
Good luck with your family.
2006-12-09 02:08:58 · answer #5 · answered by Louw D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A family that falls apart is never the responsiblity of any child or adolescent. When a family falls apart, all the blame or responsiblity lies with the parents; the adults.
Stop messing up and you'll feel better, but it won't change the family structure; that's your parents job.
2006-12-09 01:52:07 · answer #6 · answered by Hank Hill 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know some things that are concerning you is not right because you are not thinking right. You also know that some things concerning you are things you know to be true. However people tend to blame others for their own problems that have nothing to do with you. Talk to your parents if you can. If you feel you can't talk to a counselor. Be it school or a professional. What is important foremost is that someone help you. Let everyone else fend for themselves. If you have siblings try to be supportive. Ask for the help you need or take the help you need on your own.
2006-12-09 01:55:00 · answer #7 · answered by bountyhunter101 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be a nice person, you'll like yourself for it, you'll always feel better and you'll always have a positive attitude. Kids always think they're family problems are because of them when they're not at all. There are always bumps in the road for individuals, families and society. Faith is usually what gets most through the tough times, makes you stronger and wiser....
2006-12-09 01:58:52 · answer #8 · answered by Hiqutipie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you and your family need to sit down and come to a common ground. Maybe you should find a confident and try talking to them about what's going on at home...sometimes it takes an outsider to give you hind site. Maybe you and your family should start counseling. Start with just yourself and when your content with that bring in your parents. I think having a mediator would help most definitely.
2006-12-09 01:53:01 · answer #9 · answered by Floridapurrfection 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Write letters to all. I am big on writting letters it helps sort your feelings out on paper. In the letters tell them what you really feel, why you are acting out, just be honest. The letters prevent anyone from having to talk to aviod all the yelling and the screaming. Also tell them to write you back. Don't forget to be completly honest and have them to be honest with you too.
2006-12-09 02:03:41 · answer #10 · answered by Danielle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋