My boyfriends annoying me help!!?

Question

This past week I've been feeling really annoyed by my boyfriend, I've been with him for 14 months now. I have a 15 month son from my x husband, but my son has known my boyfriend since he was 4 wks old. Me and my son live with my boyfriend. Lately everything about him is annoying me. He touches my boobs all the time and this week I just wanted to be left alone. I don't feel like having sex and thats all he keeps thinking about this week. Its really getting on my nerves. he also keeps being really down because he's about to lose his house. The thing is is that he's not doing anything to stop it, he has had no ambition for a long time now and just being lazy. He wanted me to move in to his house so bad because he needed help. I told him before I moved in that I couldn't till january, but then he said he didn't care about if I paid him or not. He is getting more insecure everyday about me leaving him. He keeps telling me I don't love him when I do, but somedays. Is there something wrong?

Answer 1

Forget About Him And ******* Leave Him.

Answer 2

Well it seems like his priorities are in the wrong place. He needs to be worried about the house. You need to be upfront and honest 100% with him and stop beating around the bush. You need to tell him that you can't move you and your son into a insecure home that will be taken away while he sits back and does nothing. All the while is only compelled to just fondle your chest and pressure you about sex. He needs to know that doubting your love will not get you to feel sorry for him and get him a free sex pass. If he is looking for a pitty party let him know he needs to go! If he is looking for a meaningful relationship that is gonna last and is gonna mean something more than just a place to put his hands and you know what, he needs to step up and be a man for himself first. Then and only then can you consider moving you and your son into the home with him. If he has a plan ask him what it is. It maybe that he has a plan and that you don't know of it yet. I am wondering if he is counting on someone to loan him money to solve his financial wowes? Communication is gonna solve alot of your problems here. Either way sounds like you fell for a boy who was fronting like a man! Get someone to watch your little boy and go over to his house and have a serious sit down and talk time with no interruptions! Good luck. No matter the outcome stick with your decision. You have to think of your son first and foremost.

Answer 3

He has reason to be insecure-because you are having second thoughts, he can see that you aren't completely happy and that scares him. There comes a time in every relationship where people think about the next step, like is this someone I want to marry or should we end it now before it goes bad. Since you have a child who is attached to him, you have to be careful in your decision, it'll affect his life too. You need to talk to him and tell him how you feel, nothing can be done unless you are both honest. And you gotta be honest w/ yourself, do you really still love him and want to spend the rest of your life w/ him?

Answer 4

No there is nothing wrong with you, right now hes feeling insecure about him self. and alot of woman don't want to have sex all the time but the men do. sit him down and talk to him, tell him that you care but you need some space to breath, and that just because you dont want to be touch sometimes does not mean that your leaving. reassure him , and support him, that doesn't mean you have to do anything like having sex and that. good luck. tell him if he doesn't want to lose his house he needs to shape up and get on the ball to work and save it.

Answer 5

Liston some times people who are very close will annoy each other, that is normal.
the thing is that you have to find a way not to annoy each other that much and not be annoyed that often.
n a society in which egocentricity, self-gratification, narcissism, and selfishness are glorified, it has become more and more difficult to establish good relationships of any kind. People want desperately to find closeness and warmth, but they have forgotten the art of sharing, of communicating and cooperating, of adjusting. They have forgotten that lasting relationships require patience and forbearance. What is more, such relationships require concern and consideration, and even sacrifice.

Let him know that you love him make him sure you will be with him and I wish you all the best

Answer 6

You might not like this answer - but it sounds like your having pretty typical relationship issues.

He's down, and maybe looking for sex to reinforce his feelings that you love him... he's down because he perceives things in life going poorly - its a phase that I think everyone goes through at times. I know I have.

And you irritated by his behavior, which is understandable, sometimes its hard to deal with someone who is really depressed and insecure about life...

I've been through it, and I think everyone has issues like this eventually arise in a relationship. You've moved past the horny passionate stage in all probability and entered the stage in a relationship where your love for one another is being tested.

It happens to everyone.

If you love each other - try talking about it... it might reduce the stress you're probably both feeling.

If the two of you can talk honestly about how you're both feeling, and remain committed to the relationship - you'll get through this.

I wish you all the best.

-dh

Answer 7

Yes. There is something wrong. What? I don't know but maybe it has something to do with responsibilities. As women, we want the man we are with to provide some sense of security for us. We don't want to be with someone and shoulder all the financial responsibilities. If we have to provide for ourselves as well as our kids, uhmmm then what is there purpose other than sex? You are in a good position, believe it or not. You have options, if you have a job and it sounds like you do by your boyfriend wanting you to move in. Don't be a sucker for this guy. If he only asking and wanting you to move in now..to help save the day. It's too late to dig him out of the rut he's gotten himself into by not finding employment. And when he's put out don't allow him to move in with you (if you have your own place) without a job. Bad idea. He needs support from you, but he needs to realize that he has to do something, in order to get something to start working in his favor. The house may be a lost cause if he hasn't tried to work it out with his mortgage company. When we don't feel secure about our day to day living arrangements...it hard to feel intimate with a guy no matter how much you luv 'em. For men it helps takes some of the pressure of everyday matter off. As far as support, help him figure out how to get off the couch and go look for work. If he's working and it's not enough to keep the house...two things, either find another job or find somewhere else to live. But it's important to have a plan and make preparations so that he's not out on the streets. Time to talk and find out what he's thinking..what is his plan for a way out..Help him figure it out. Good luck!

Answer 8

i want some more informations about ur life. u r having a baby which is 15months old. u had a boy frieng for 14months. when u left ur husband? u got divorse from him? but anyway can u live the life alonely? first u have to thing abt it. another thing is ur boyfriend have no plans for long term. he is going to lose his home even. finally he wants sex from u, which is u dont like now.
so its better if u leave him.we can advise you, but u have to think about ur future and you have to decide. Don't be a Football to others opinion. so think about ur life and make a good decesion. May God bless you. take care of ur self dear Friend.

Answer 9

I don't see a whole lot of LOVE in this situation--just convenience & comfort.

I think you should break up, even if it's just til he gets his head together.
Good luck.

Answer 10

Dump him before your son grows attached to him! That's what I'd do.