There's this really cute guy I like but he hangs out with the popular group and I'm just the average girl next door. We don't know eachother at ALL but I really want to go out with him. Thing is, I can't approach him because he sits with the populars at break, and I have no classes with him. I heard he's a really nice guy, but I don't know if I should talk to him, ask him out or wait for him to ask me, or if I even have the chance! What should I do? Besides, won't it make me look desperate if I ask him?
2006-12-09 00:47:02 · 11 answers · asked by femmestranger 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Now you know how guys feel about approaching the Unattainable Hottie.
To someone out there, you may be the Unattainable Hottie :) You're used to seeing you in the mirror, so you don't think of yourself that way. Fear can immobilize folks who don't think this whole thing through though.
Repeat after me: LIFE IS NOT A REHEARSAL.
If you want Really Cute Guy, ask him out and see what happens. Don't sit passively and wait for him to act.
What's the worst that could happen? He could act like a jerk and shoot you down. What would that tell you? That he wasn't what you thought he was, and that you're better off being rejected immediately by him than investing time in him.
Being turned down by someone who isn't into you does you a favor, as you 1) don't waste further time with them and 2) are free to pursue other relationships. It's not an indictment of who you are as a person. It's just a judgment that you two wouldn't work out.
Now take a leap and ask the guy. Make it happen.
Good luck.
2006-12-09 00:53:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok,just because he's popular doesnt mean he's that scary to go up to.trust me i should know.ok first things first,let him notice you,try getting out more or do something outrageous.just let your presents be known.Don't just go up to him and say "hey,lets go out" that's so elementary.when ever you see him in the hallway or by hisself try talking to him or bump into him on purpose just to get his attention,But remember when you do any of this look your best and always hold your head up high.so ur more then welcomed to take my advice but how do you think i got the most popular/finest boy in high school and guess what I was only a freshman.
Good luck
TRIXY
2006-12-09 00:57:33 · answer #2 · answered by Trixy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Didn't you say that you don't know each other at all? maybe he haven't notice you yet since he has all those popular people around him, if he's a nice guy, once he sees you, he might fall in love with you too.
PS: Be careful, sometimes popular kids are heart breakers.
2006-12-09 00:52:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, that doesn't make you look desperate at all. sometimes guys like it when a girl takes charge.just catch him in the hallway between classes, or ask him for his number or e mail address and tell him that you need to talk to him about something or that you need his advice, then when you talk try to make the conversations last as long as you can. good luck and i hope it all works out.
2006-12-09 00:53:39 · answer #4 · answered by Linds 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would wait for him to be alone without anyone following him around. I did that in junior high. But I had two "friends" follow us when I did that. Make sure you're alone too. Then why you have a chance, go for it and be yourself. If you do it in front of others, it might sound you're desperate.
2006-12-09 00:50:30 · answer #5 · answered by Kristen H 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you can try to catch him when he is alone and just smile to him and let him know that your presence in school. Then slowly get to talk to him and then from then on, ask him out casually. You may never know the real outcome unless you try. If you fail, at least he knows that there's a girl like you out there. If you succeed, it will be wonderful!!Good luck!
2006-12-09 00:52:02 · answer #6 · answered by autumn lover 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl you just need to go talk to him and see what he is like and what he likes. Who cares about thr populars and so what if they dont like you.Afeter you get to know him then ask him to the movies then go off from there. Good luck.
2006-12-09 00:52:10 · answer #7 · answered by Derinda M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'v been t in the same situation I think you should go for it but first you need to see if he has a girl friend. Then get to know him(if you don't he could turn out to be a *****) Then GO FOR IT
2006-12-09 00:50:47 · answer #8 · answered by HoT♥MaMa♥ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you should wait until he talks to you. He might think you are lame or something if u suddenly come over.
2006-12-09 00:50:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him out whatever his doing and tell him how you feel!!!
2006-12-09 00:54:09 · answer #10 · answered by Nouhime 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋