My mother just passed away on 12 Nov 2006. I am the only child. I have been grieving non-stop for everyday. Is there anything I can do to keep myself busy so that I won't have to grief?? Thank you all!!
2006-12-09 00:41:09 · 13 answers · asked by Mckyboyz 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I am so sorry for your loss. It takes time to grieve. I still think of my mother who passed away over 6 years a go at the age of 55 from skin cancer. I still want to just call her sometimes.
It does ease over time. I would recommend still going to work. Make time to be with your friends and family. I know that since the holidays are here, that is the one of the hardest times for you and your family. Be with your family and share the good memories. I am sure your mother would not want you to just sit around and mourn all the time. Try going out and volunteering during the holidays to someone in need to help you during your time of grieving. There is nothing like putting a smile on others faces to help put a smile in your heart. I did volunteer work for a kidney foundation. I also gave to a cancer fund. My Dad attends the cancer functions to help him. I would love to do more volunteer stuff with children. Now there are angel trees you can go out and purchase clothing for needy children.
Hugs to you and your family. When you are feeling at your lowest put a smile on your face and go out and do something nice for a stranger, whether it is just holding a door open for someone with their arms full or saying hello to someone who looks like they lost their world, you would be surprised to see their faces light up. It is ok for you to have those days to grieve. Try to be with Aunts or uncles since you don't have siblings. I will be praying for you.
2006-12-09 00:51:36 · answer #1 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My mom and dad passed away in Sept 2005 so I totally know what your going through. It was truly the most difficult time in my life and I never thought Id ever be the same again. But i am! I'm OK and that surprises the HELL outta me!!And you will be too.It just takes time.This is so fresh and with the holidays and all....bless your heart. I will tell you something someone told me that helped me tremendously....
"You owe it to your mom to come out from under this dark cloud of grief ......and live. I'm sure your mom's number one concern is that you are OK and can carry on with your life-she wants you to be happy and at peace.
some things to pass the time and keep your mind off this grieving....movies are good,go christmas shopping and buy for others,draw,I found it helpfull to surround myself with my closest friends & family,and just talking and laughing about stuff can really help.
2006-12-09 02:43:45 · answer #2 · answered by tokenwhtgrl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear that. It's normal to grieve to a certain extent, but not everyday. It's still fresh in your mind so give it a little time. In the meantime, you can find something to do like: pray, work, talk to a counselor or friend about your feelings and just try to remember the good times (if any). You'll be fine. Remember: This too shall pass.
2006-12-09 00:47:19 · answer #3 · answered by C's Wifey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear about your mother. There are many ways to grieve. Ask yourself this question. What would Mom tell me to do? Im sure she wouldnt want you grieving for her now. She would probably tell you to get your butt off the computer and go do what you like to do. If you have a circle of friends, then go be with them. If you have a Church family, then spend time with them. Your best avenue of dealing with grief is being with people that care about you. I wish you well.
2006-12-09 01:04:48 · answer #4 · answered by ob10830 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really really feel for you being an only child myself and just overcome a serious illness. My son is 8 and also an only child, and his father incapable of having been able to care for him, when at my lowest it was him I cried for. I do believe your mother would not want to see you so unhappy. Have you tried exercise that is a good way to get rid of frustrations, even if the gym is not for you a brisk power walk out in nature will help clear your mind too. Try some spiritual guidance too I pray to God every night, but it could be anyone you believe in. I wish you all the best for the future and I know you will be just fine with time. Big hug
2006-12-09 00:58:22 · answer #5 · answered by Queen 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Heeling from grief may never go away, especially after a lose of a mother. I volunteer in my community after my sister and two children were killed. It helped tremendously, because I was doing something in the community and I felt good inside, but still the pain is there after 12 years. Take one day at a time. Very sorry for your lose.
2006-12-09 01:10:16 · answer #6 · answered by Girls M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes there are! Here are some tips:
1. Read a good book, one that you find funny and adventurous
2. Watch some good comedies, at the movies and/or dvds like:
Van Wilder, American Pie 2, Brewster's Millions, Billy Maddison, Happy Gilmore, Friday, Caddyshack 2, Fletch Lives
3. Walk around the block , the neighbourhood, appreciate your surroundings - remember you are very much alive and have the wonderful gift of life, you have the privelage of JOY and PEACE, which are two things I am certain your mother is experiencing right now.
2006-12-09 00:51:22 · answer #7 · answered by Dave777 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry to hear about you losing your mom. Grieving is a natural process that we all have to go through. She did pass away not that long ago and your conscience isn't ready to accept that yet. You can try to take your mind off of it by spending time with those who are close to you and those who make you feel happy, whether it be another family member, or a good friend. Join in activities that make you happy, or start a hobby.
2006-12-09 00:46:37 · answer #8 · answered by Finally FREE!! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry to say, but grief is something that should not be jumped over, but needs to be muddled through. It is tough, it is normal. and it has not been that long. And the holidays are always the hardest times. Spend time remembering your mother, missing her, but also remember that she would want you to continue your life. Think of your mother watching you from where she is now. She is still a part of your life.
2006-12-09 00:45:41 · answer #9 · answered by whiteafrican01 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am very sorry that she passed away, but when my grandfather died, to keep my mind off of it, I go somewhere with friends. Being with other people, and away from your house really makes you not think about it as much. But when you go to sleep, you will think about your mother, and you might cry, but just know that your mother would want you to do something with your life, and eventually feel good about yourself. Hope this helps. :)
2006-12-09 00:58:51 · answer #10 · answered by Josh Willard 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋