2006-12-09 00:38:05 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes. Someone I was dating said he was not ready for a relationship. He wanted to just be friends, and I didn't feel that way. So, I told him that I couldn't be "just friends," and ended the relationship. It was awful for me because I missed him so much. But, I kept myself busy with my job, reading books to make me an even better person, hung out with other friends, dated a few guys that I really wasn't interested in...just moved on with my life. And, I had no contact with him. He called a few times, but I each time I told him kindly that I just couldn't keep in contact with him. Well, about 4 months later, he called saying he missed me and wondered if we could get together. I said, "No. I can't just be friends with you, and it's been really hard trying to forget about you, and don't want to have to start all over again if that happens again with us." He said he did a lot of thinking and he missed me too, and that he was just scared of making a commitment. He asked if I would give him another chance. So, we met and talked and I laid down some rules. We would start out slow ... and that he would have to "win me over" to prove he was really serious. We would hug hello and goodbye, but no other affection for a few weeks. And, we talked ALOT about what we wanted in a relationship. Gradually, he proved that he was serious, and we've been together for 6 months now, and we're talking about getting engaged next year.
My advice is for you to stay busy with work, school, friends, improving yourself as a person. Even if he doesn't change his mind, in that way, you'll be the best you can be when the right person comes along.
2006-12-09 00:55:50 · answer #1 · answered by Lou 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course!
If a person says they are "not ready" for a relationship, it means that at that moment, they are not ready for a relationship. It doesn't mean that they will never be ready for a relationship.
People are dynamic, they grow, they change, they learn.
You know what they say about the future...it ain't like it used to be.
2006-12-09 00:42:38 · answer #2 · answered by roadlessgraveled 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've had that experience several times.
As long as you remain friends, and occasionally remind the person that you are still interested (subtlety tends to work best...) you have a shot at a romantic relationship with that person.
Its a matter of persistence and maintaining the friendship.
-dh
2006-12-09 00:42:28 · answer #3 · answered by delicateharmony 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes his name iz Will n he keeps askin me out n I say Im not ready but then again Im ready Im just not ready to be wit him cuz he look really good n I dont have time to fight some other chicks cuz they want to get with my man n I sill have feelins for him but I dont tell him.
-LaLa
2006-12-09 00:41:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes my boyfriend told me that and then a year later changed his mind were very happy together now it was just bad timing when we first met.
2006-12-09 00:46:00 · answer #5 · answered by keevy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋