What would you do?

Question

You are talking to a person you really like. Both of you are clearly interested but haven't gone out on an official date yet. You are on the phone with them and someone else calls so you ask if they can hang on a second. You tell the other person to just wait a few minutes you will be down to meet them. You get back on the phone and apologize and then they say "who was that?" 1) At this stage, is asking too intrusive? 2) Should you answer?

Answer 1

I would answer by saying, "Just a friend", and let it go at that. If they become insistent on knowing WHO the friend was, then you don't need to go out with them anyway....they have control issues. Good Luck!!

Answer 2

This is one of those questions that's open to a lot of interpretation, because it depends upon the person. I tend to be fairly open, and would not give a second thought to the question. I can certainly understand that you might feel differently. Your friend may not care for call waiting--many people may secretly feel like their conversation is not important enough to you if you put them on hold to see if "someone better" is on the line--of course we don't know that's the case here, and should not assume.

Personally, I would bear in mind that people do have wildly varying ideas on what is too personal at what point in the relationship. I'm sure he didn't mean to offend. Like I said, I would just answer it (unless it was an old boyfriend). However, if you do feel the question is one you don't care to answer, maybe you could just say "no one as charming and fascinating as you", in a coy, flirtatious little voice. If he pushes the issue, that may be a warning sign that he's a little insecure or overly sensitive about call waiting, so you could just tell him it was a telemarketer.

Answer 3

At this stage it is a bit nosey to ask who it is with the expectation that the answer given is an obligatory one. Not until you two are pretty defined as a couple do such questions require full disclosure. And it doesn't matter if you have nothing hide, this is a matter of privacy in principle, and having boundaries until one is secure with the other person enough to let the other fully in.

Answer 4

First, if I were talking to a person I really liked, and both are clearly interested, I'd not be too quick to flip over and catch another call.

In your situation, I'd answer: Just a friend who stopped by, so I really need to run now, I am sorry. If you wanted to stop by tomorrow, that would be cool. What time, so I can make sure I am home?

Answer 5

Don't read too much into it. It could just be a plain old question, nothing intrusive. If he asks you (ie.) "who is that" and you (ie.)respond "Oh, its a friend of mine" and he responds skeptically or if he questions you further then he's wondering if you are involved with someone else or he's just a controlling, overprotective or jealous person. Unless he gives you the third degree - Don't read too much into it.

Answer 6

No, it is not intrusive, you did keep the person on hold, an explanation is not out of place, moreso he or she may just be making light conversation by asking. Yes, you should answer diplomatically or however you wish to.

Answer 7

Sounds like he was just interested. Maybe wants to know if he has any competition. Answer if you want. Or not. Only you can ascertain what is to intrusive for you.

Answer 8

It is a little rude but just answer "oh a friend", be ambiguous and let it go if you really like them. or if you're worried they will be a little overbearing in the future then simply say "why do you ask?

Answer 9

Let them know that you have to go but will call them at a later time if that possible.. You don't have to answer his or her question if you all are not in a relationship..

Answer 10

They can ask, some people are very curious. And you can chose to answer if you wish. Their reaction is what is important. If they freak out about it, yes this is a huge red flag. Good luck and God bless****