My brother was dignosised with cancer in August 2006 and was admitted into the V.A. Hospital November 4, 2006 and they said that the cancer had spread throughout his body and he was told it was terminal cancer and sent him home with Hospice Care to help us care for him till he died. On December 6, 2006 he passed away and the funeral and plot is going to cost about $5000.00 and I have nothing and niether does he. Where can I go to get help.
2006-12-08 23:46:43 · 12 answers · asked by americanangel0322 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Community Service
You can :
1. Go to any church and ask for donations towards your brother funeral, (Catholoic churches especially)
2. Have a donation based fundraiser in honor of your brother,
3. If you are a sales person, you could have a bake sale
My friend and I went door to door one time and asked for donations to help with another friends funeral, and we ended up raising over $4000 just going door to door.
2006-12-09 03:58:37 · answer #1 · answered by orchid2800 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Talk to the funeral director. He may have some ideas for how you can cut some of the cost.
Not sure what your plans were but... Instead of a funeral at a funeral home or a church, have a brief graveside funeral. If you were planning a wake and a funeral, cancel the wake and just have the funeral.
Pick one of the cheaper caskets. They are still nice.
Also, talk to the cemetary director, They may have some outside resources that help with this .
You could also try holding a fundraiser. Have a spaghetti dinner for $5 a plate. All money to help with funeral costs. Sometimes some of the lodges(elks, etc.) will allow use of their building for it.
Set up a memorial fund at the bank that anyone can put money in. Ask the bank director how to set that up.
And then call or email the radio stations and news to see if they could run the info on air.
Those are some of what I did when we had to plan the funeral for my nephew and it helped alot.
I am so sorry for your loss.
Good luck.. things will work out.
2006-12-08 23:58:43 · answer #2 · answered by Jen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How sad! I'm so sorry for your loss.
I don't know where you live, but in my hometown, whenever something like this happens, there always seems to be donation boxes or cans with with a note attached explaining the cause, on gas station counters, at grocery stores, etc... Usually the people in town try to take care of their own. You might also try to come to an agreement with the Funeral Director. If he is unwilling to budge, try another funeral director. I'm certain that is easier said than done.
You might also just post a note on the Internet and explain the situation and ask for help.
2006-12-08 23:59:43 · answer #3 · answered by lisa 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-14 08:09:51 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A good idea is to set up something with your local community like a memorial fund, asking for donations from everyone in your town that knew your brother. You could put a small ad in the paper or simply write little letters to everyone you and your brother knew. I'm sorry for your loss
2006-12-08 23:55:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry to hear about your brother. I lost my mother out of the blue last year, no warning she just grabed her cheast and fell over and died, I got some help from social services but to let you know they will only pay for the min. I talked to our local funural director and he let me make payments but she still does not have a headstone because that must be payed for all at once.
2006-12-08 23:56:29 · answer #6 · answered by Sexy T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First let me say sorry I am for your loss, than go to the VA, and your Social Security Dept, there is some help there. I know this is a hard time and do hope things work out for you.
2006-12-09 04:22:45 · answer #7 · answered by Louisa R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear about your bother, dude. He died on my birthday which makes this a little awkward. You may not be able to get 5Gs in a week, but you can always get a bank loan. There're many ways to consolidate your debt to pay it off in under a year.
2006-12-09 00:07:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry for for lost.....
You said he was in a VA hospital which means he was a veteran, have you checked with veteran's affairs?
Do you work? I know when my mom died suddenly, my dad's work made up the difference and he paid them back from each paycheck.
2006-12-08 23:57:38 · answer #9 · answered by BritLdy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pancake Breakfast! Go ahead. Ty
2006-12-09 01:00:44 · answer #10 · answered by Happy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋