date,fall in love,marry a 41 year old twice diorviced,woman 4 kids ages 21,16,8 year old twins
do you think i have a chance at true love honestly
2006-12-08 23:36:36 · 14 answers · asked by nicname 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It is the person you fall in love with not the "bonuses" (kids being one of them) It really all comes down to you. I know a 38 year old divorced woman with one kid. I would totally go out with her except her entire identity is mom, she has no substance except that of her child...Not good.
As a desirable male, I can suggest to make it all about you. Some men would view your situation as a problem, rather let the man learn about your strengthes first, don't make your dates all about what the twins did at school today.. etc Its YOU he is interesested in!
as for later down the road....
Keep your house in order, run a tight ship.. etc. If you bring your new prospect home to meet the family, and the grass is 3 feet tall, and the 21 year old is sitting on the couch drinking beer beating up the 16 year old, the man will view you as a pushover. Nobody likes weak people. More then anything men want to be respected (its in the Bible) If your kids respect you, then he will subconcionsly want you to respect him!
Do not view your situation as a bad thing or a hindrance. Its not about having a chance AT love but rather you deserve love, and with 4 kids you probably have a really big heart with a lot of love and interesting insights to share!
To answer your quesion Yes. I would meet up with someone in your situation, and hopefully take it all the way, but it really depends on them and who they are as a person!
I was pondering this question and the following came to mind
Take a more positive outlook on the situation you could look at it negatively like "I have been divorced twice". or you could look at it positively like "I know what works and what doesn't".
Most people tend to enjoy positive or optomistic people more!
Women hate neediness and insecurity in a man, men hate this too in a lesser degree. If you lack these attributes you stand a much better chance of finding the ideal other half.
Dont listen to some of these negative answers here, they can damage your self-confidence and that will really hinder your efforts.
And on a side note I enjoyed your "how do you make french kiss" answer! anyone with a creative sense of humor gets bonus points in my book!
2006-12-09 00:13:10 · answer #1 · answered by steak n' eggs 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You already know by your question that you have considerable baggage. Many guys don't want a woman with someone elses kids, much less 4 of them.
BUT.....that having been said......I DO think there are good men out there who would/could love you and your kids. I do know from experience that your chances are lower if your kids are wild and disrespectful...if your home is a pigpen and if you have no job. But we are ALL looking for true love......every one of us.....and love really is where you find it. There's nothing in the world stronger than true love.
Maybe I'm a romantic at heart but I believe that true love really CAN conquer anything....and that there is a match for everyone, but sometimes it's hard to find. Whats that old saying about there being a glove for every hand?
I think love will find YOU if you don't try to hard....and above all....don't settle for just anyone. Just go about your life and stay available and put yourself in the right places. NO clubs or bars!
I hope I haven't been too blunt for you but you did ask for honesty.
I wish you the best of luck and hope you find true love one day.
2006-12-08 23:52:43 · answer #2 · answered by Joey Bagadonuts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd sell off him asap. If he likes a further lady and he or she him, WHAT ARE YOU DOING??? Real love does not play video games or have wandering eyes, it is dedicated and difficult paintings. You MUST see this as a purple flag, a deal breaker, strike 3. Your younger, i am guessing, you should not also be due to the fact a SERIOUS dating that's going to intent you lack of confidence. Have a laugh, do not emerge as overly invested on this, WHAT? you cannot flirt? Move on, the writing is at the wall and it spells hindrance. Do your self a desire and reduce the fellow free, whether it is destined to be, it'll run it is path and he will be again. But why you might take him again best you'll be able to reply.
2016-09-03 09:42:02 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wonder some times that same question ! I am in a long time commitment but wonder what would happen to my love/sex life if anything would ever happen between me and my other half
Yes I would take a look at you (smile) and every woman/girl from 18-80
and as for kids I have 4 (24,21,20,and 12)they are my life!
There are guys out there looking just for YOU !! "Honestly"!!!!
2006-12-08 23:52:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
um i dunno coz I'm not a guy bt all that stuff shouldn't matter as long as he really likes u rite? if uv found some one and ur worried talk to him ...asking questions to strangers isn't really gonna answer ur question if its about a guy ur with now ...bt if ur alone then i dunno I'm sure if ur really nice then why wouldn't any guy want to fall in love with u and get married just because u have kids and been divorced some times it takes a fue good men to find the one were meant to be with forever :)
2006-12-08 23:48:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yeah, you have a chance. Be patience and love will come again.
2006-12-08 23:39:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
it honestly depends on who is ready for a commitment of a ready made family. your track record for being married isn't very good,maybe you should stay single
2006-12-08 23:42:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Of coarse you can find the love of your life anytime!
2006-12-08 23:43:32 · answer #8 · answered by ludmont126 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have chance to meet another one also .
2006-12-08 23:40:31 · answer #9 · answered by your noon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try match.com- you're gonna have to be ready to compromise, I mean you're not gonna find a guy as good looking as me, but maybe you'll find someone that has the same thing as you and it can be the Brady Bunch.
2006-12-08 23:38:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋