i met a guy in a hotel and he is so handsome and he came up to me that night and we talked and then the next day we went out and ever since we've been meeting. we have slept together but one time he told me that he cant commit to anything cause of his work, he is in the US millitary. and i got hurt but im still hanging with him. he says he likes my company etc. last week we went to the disco and i was dancing with a guy who apparently kissed me on the forehead and he saw me and made a fuss about it all. and now he wasnt talking to me for a while cause he got mad at me. and now he is showing so much attention to me etc. i mean, im confused since he told me that he cant commit, why did he get jealous and is now giving me all the affection and attention??? how do i handle this?? please help
2006-12-08 23:31:27 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That is just infatuation get over it! why did you dance with the other guy anyway???
2006-12-08 23:35:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am guy and I can tell you exactly what is going on. He likes you to have fun and to have sex whenever he is on vacation/available. When you are with him he considers you as his. When he doesn't need you he would rather have you waiting for him instead of meeting someone else and to get on with your life.
If he said it to you straight in your face that he is just having fun and not willing to commit, what are waiting for ? Have fun when he is around or walk away if committment is essential for you. What is in between seems difficult for you to handle because it is confusing.
People in general (guys or girls) by human nature are selfish. They only care about their own needs and so do what you want and what you feel is best for you. You will keep being confused then depressed then broken harted till you figure out where you want to go. Take a stand and stick to it.
Horoine is nice and makes people high. Should people take it or not. It feels nice but it is destructive at the same time. How come that something nice is destructive at the same time ? Stange isn't it ? Good luck
2006-12-08 23:43:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well baby girl, it's really simple you both rushed into a situation that takes time to develop, well since he's in the military, that really does not give him an excuse why he can't commit, it's because he's committed to someone else already, now the only reason he wants to give u so much attention now cause he don't want anyone else with you, it's an old player trick, (if u can't be with her, then no one else can be with her either). not saying he's a player, but realize one thing he is a guy and we do play games, not to mention lie, (not to say women don't,) just ask him again to commit to you and see what he does, says, etc. if he does not look you in the eyes, he has someone else, if he stutters, he's lying, and if the first word out his mouth is huh, he's thinking of a lie to tell, so sweetie don't sell yourself short, or set yourself up for heart-break.
2006-12-08 23:59:23 · answer #3 · answered by ish 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have some respect for yourself. You are in the position you are, because you allowed this to happen. Love yourself and end this relationship, before it ends up hurting you. If a man is not willing to commit, then you should not spend your time with a worthless relationship. Now he is pretending to be jealous and wants to control your life. BE SMART, get out of it, before its too late.
2006-12-08 23:45:28 · answer #4 · answered by Big&Tall 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are his game Zone be attention and think twice .... the only thing that i can understand from what you say that he control you in many ways : 1- he cant commit to anything
2- he saw me and made a fuss about it all
3- he get jealous
4- giving me all the affection and attention
and after all you still hanging with him ??????
please help your self and find what else you can do........
2006-12-08 23:52:03 · answer #5 · answered by lol_as4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
guy a million can not smash a three 365 days courting for you, so bypass on and stop messing with boyfriends who already have a lady friend.. guy 2, properly if he replaced into ugly why were going out with him interior the first position? you should of considered what he appears like previously all this went down, if that did not problem then that is going to not problem you presently..
2016-11-30 08:41:07 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a man! they want you to be loyal and they want to poke everything they can. Tell him if he cannot commit then neither can you and it is none of his business who you dance with or sleep with. Sounds like a control freak. Be honest but be firm
2006-12-08 23:35:35 · answer #7 · answered by SweetDeath! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he may either have a girlfriend or wife. He wants his cake and icecream too. He doesn't want you as his girlfriend yet he doesn't want someone else to have you either. Find out if he has someone else before getting to deep.
2006-12-08 23:34:43 · answer #8 · answered by rosa23231 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Us guys are irrational. Once we mark our territory we don't want other men moving in on it.
2006-12-08 23:34:45 · answer #9 · answered by Your #1 fan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to quit having high hopes with this guy and move on with your life.
2006-12-08 23:45:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋