My gf has had alot of problems recently and has become more distant over the past month. I talked with her and she's said I don't need to worry, but I can't get my mind off of it. I can barely sleep, eat and I've had headaches for the past week. I just don't know what to do...
2006-12-08 23:16:15 · 11 answers · asked by Alan S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
In a healthy relationship individuals do not worry about the other. There is a difference between caring and worrying about your partner. Your girlfriend is right when she said not to worry. Your anxiety is not helping her but only adding to the problems.
2006-12-08 23:23:55 · answer #1 · answered by Emmanuel H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm going to school for counseling, and it's completely normal for a therapist to go "off topic" about what y'all talk about. Usually the client talks about what they want to talk about, and casual conversations can help the therapist find out little details about how the client converses with others and lives their lives. Having a bond with your therapist is a good thing. Being able to trust and disclose information can make you progress easier. The therapist should know when the line is crossed, and even then she wouldn't just cut you off from sessions. But if you're really worried about being too dependent on your counselor (like you would be with a personal relationship), tell her that you would like to work on learning to become more independent. Either way, this isn't something that you should stress our about.
2016-03-29 00:43:33 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to stop thinking about yourself and think directly about whats bothering her and fixing it. IF you get all down and lamentful you are not going to be capable of doing much to help her. So first step is to get your anxiety to subside, then be as optimistic as possible and mention every possible positive thing in both your lives, I mean if you love each other there has to be something that interests you both and that will erase most negative things. IT's imperative that u remain optimistic and not suffer to much mentally, worrying really doesn't help. She will probably respect u more if she perceives you as sympthetic to her feelings but also not somebody who sinks down if she isn't affectionate with you. OR maybe u both really just need to be intimate. Do some thing sweet like buy her a gift or kiss her and tell her how special she is. BEST of luck man I know a lot about how u are feeling, and to be honest sometimes just waiting it out and being optimistic is the best approach. Don't let it get too blown out of proportion.
2006-12-08 23:28:21 · answer #3 · answered by DeViOusDaViD 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe its time to move on. It sounds like she wants to but doesn't want to hurt u. U must do something. Nobody can carry on the way u r. If she says don't worry, then don't! U'll only end up making urself ill. It sounds like ur already on the way to doing that. Try asking her if she wants to end it. If she says no, let her know how u feel. The anxiety will only make u sick.
Go talk to her some more and good luck.
2006-12-08 23:28:56 · answer #4 · answered by kiwi_mum1966 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be afraid...maybe your gf needs a little time to fix things on her own. But if you are a bit anxious about it, go tell her you are not happy to see her that way. Tell her It's like she doesn't need you anymore. Ask her that you are willing to listen and be of help. If she said she needs time alone, let her be, just let her know you are just there waiting...Try to understand that everybody needs a little time-out. You still can support her that way. Meanwhile, do not let yourself be miserable about it. You need to be ok the moment she needs you...i hope it's a happy ending!
2006-12-08 23:24:17 · answer #5 · answered by nozmiat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Worrying is like rocking on a rocking chair. It fills in the time but it does not get you anywhere.
An important thing to realise is that your transferal of her problems to your mind is a choice. You are not a victim of your emotions but rather the master of them. Have you considered just taking control of yourself?
2006-12-08 23:26:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is when she need syou the most.Make sure you are there for her.You don,t necessarily have to talk you can just sit with her and keep quite. It seems she is the kind that keeps her stuff all bottled up until she figures her way out.
2006-12-08 23:23:55 · answer #7 · answered by cynnie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communication is the key to a successful relationship. Without it you might as well starting looking for someone else. If she can't be honest with you now she never will be.
2006-12-08 23:26:32 · answer #8 · answered by Redhead 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your girlfriends problem stem from something else just be there for her when she needs you. Some people handle stressful situations by distancing themselves from others.There is no reason that you should have anxieties.
2006-12-08 23:21:18 · answer #9 · answered by justturning40 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start praying...prayers help us a lot if we are sincere; God loves you so much, talk with Him!
2006-12-08 23:22:59 · answer #10 · answered by tatal_nostru2006 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋