Alright ive posted a few questions about my current situation well heres another question..just got dumped from a 5 year relationship where my girlfriend broke up with me to date another guy...its been a week since weve broken up..she said she wanted to see other people since ive been with her since she was 14 and that sounded all fine and dandy but when another man is influencing her decisions i don think thats right at all.well im freakin miserable and i know a few girls from my past that i could call up right now to hang out with..im not talking about sex i just want to feel some attention from girls i know will give it to me..the thing is im not sure i will be able to not have sex with them if the situation comes up..i dont want to be having sex with girls now just because everything is so fresh with the breakup but im so tired of just thinking of her with this guy and i need to get my mind of this..good or bad idea to hang out with these other girls??
2006-12-08 23:03:41 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i know its not a good idea to sleep around but im hurting so bad from my ex doing this to me that im getting desperate..i just want the pain to go away..and i know if i can mask it long enough with these other girls i think i will be able to get over this faster...i dont know maybe im just talking out of my *** but i really just dont know what to do..
2006-12-08 23:12:06 · update #1
it may actually be a good idea to spread your wings and see other women,,as you say,you are not ready to be dating but other women may be able to give you a certain perspective that a man or men couldn't.you have had the same person and all they have to offer for a long time and it will hurt that her ideas dont match up with yours but,given some time and space that may change,,you may feel you would like to just be alone,you may even feel there is nothing wrong with dating another person,,it would seem though that just learning who you are without your ex girlfriend should be your priority so you can get some mental peace,,go out and have some fun.
2006-12-08 23:21:31 · answer #1 · answered by lex 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know where u are right now. I also have been in a relationship with my man since I was 14. I remember getting really scared at different times in the relationship not understanding what my true feelings were since I have been with him since I was basically a young child. I remember breaking up with him at times in high school because I felt at times I was missing something, or actually testing myself to see if I can survive with out him. He has always been my everything and I was afraid I wouldnt know how to live with out HIM if HE broke up with me. Also I knew I loved him but I wasnt sure if it was the kind of love that is sposed to be or the love like I have for my brother just because we have been together so long so young. my case was different from urs in the way that I figured out how I felt by age 19 and thats when we got married. She may be having some of these same feelings as I did. I think u should make it clear that u love her and u are here for her. Then let her go. If she comes back then its meant to be. If not... then u have those memories of a special childhood love and she helped free the path for u to find a stronger better love. Please dont do anything right now that u will regret like with other girls. Give her time. after a while if she dont seem to want u, then move on. but right now is to soon. my e-mail is tiffbran202_5@yahoo.com if u wanna get a girls point of view on things. Good luck and God Bless. wish I could write more but im running out of room.
2006-12-08 23:30:10 · answer #2 · answered by goober 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have had a similar problem since I was 14 years old and I'm now 22. For years I could not get any answers and thought I was going crazy. But I'm not... turns out I have a condition called Orthostatic Intolerance. Normally when people stand up their bodies adjust to the change in blood pressure but in this condition your body doesn't regulate it correctly when you stand and sometimes sit up therefore resulting in dots in your eyes, feeling heavy and an assortment of other symptoms that only go away after leaning on something or sitting down. Now if you are getting this feeling while just sitting as well it may be something different. The best thing to do is go to your doctor and describe your symptoms. Ask for a Orthrostatic intolerance test to rule that out. Hopefully you will find some answers!
2016-05-22 22:35:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it really does sound like you need to get on for now. As you get older you realise that anyone you have got into a relationship with has been with a least 1 other person before you. It will hurt as you obviously care a great deal for her, this is what she wants at the moment. I would just make it clear that you are still there for her and if it goes wrong with this new guy then you can support her through it. As for these other girls it might do you good to spend someone time with others, if you end up sleeping with them then its not the end of the world but just tread carefully as you don't want to feel more hurt.
2006-12-08 23:13:54 · answer #4 · answered by PottZ79 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is such a bad idea to hang out with any girls at this moment...Because you said the possible outcome if you will...
What you need are friends , not "girls", if you know what i mean. The fact that she went with another guy is enough not to think about her anymore. It shouldn't matter how long you've been together, sometimes true love comes like a thief. And maybe she's not really happy with you. I'm not here to further dampen your spirits, but i guess you just have to learn to forget about her for once.
I know it hurts but time heals all wounds. Try to go out with real friends and not with girls to hang out with. I guess you want to find a scapegoat not a companion...sometimes life is just like that. There's a right person for you at the right time. good luck!
2006-12-08 23:16:44 · answer #5 · answered by nozmiat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, it's major league nasty to go through it isn't it? You might try letting those nasty feelings in, hold on to them as long as you can, grieve over the loss, cry if you can (it will help), let yourself feel all those miserable feelings. You'll be doing yourself a grave disservice if you jump into another relationship right away. Why? Because you need to end the one (which means deal with all those feelings) before another. If you don't deal with all the grief feelings, they will remain in a bag which you'll carry around (figuratively) with you. So, bad idea to hang out with these other girls for a while--bad idea unless they will let you talk about your grief and loss.
2006-12-08 23:12:20 · answer #6 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well its not a bad idea to hang out with other girls... but keep in mind not to hurt their feelings.
Good Luck:)
2006-12-08 23:08:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well....you need to start living again and dating or hanging out with others is a good way to start the healing process....However, do not start jumping into bed with every girl...it's not healthy physically or emotionally and it's not fair to you or to the other girls...take things slow.....good luck
2006-12-08 23:09:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
heres what i can tell you ....JUST MOVE ON!!!
2006-12-08 23:06:06 · answer #9 · answered by livinhapi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋