i am so happy with my wife, but when we married she was a virgin for another country, where al girls are virgins on wedding night...and i took my time, and shes always willing to do anything with me i ask her to do, the sex is great on my side, BUT i am sure shes never had an orgasim and i,m running out of things to try to please her as she pleases me...she tells everybody, i am the best husband but i don,t believe i am if i can,t help her to do this...i have in the past with another, but most of my relationships were with those who knew what to do ... am just asking for any suggestions ok...and thank you ...i really want to be the best husband for her...
2006-12-08 22:33:20 · 11 answers · asked by vanshusband 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
From my own experience, I can tell you that as long as you make her feel loved she would probably be fine.
I know what I need to feel pleased, and sometimes, I don't get what I want to orgasm, but the way I see it, the goal of having sex or making love is not to have an orgasm, but to get closer, to be more intimate.
You can try and experiment with her, read about "techniques" or whatever, and try to read her. Even if she doesn't say anything, you can tell by looking at her face if she likes or dislikes something, and go from there.
I was brought up to be a virgin until i got married. This was not the case, but I was brought up to believe that as long as you could feel that your partner cares and that he is not being selfish, all is good.
Some of the best sexual experiences I have had in my life are not the ones that end in orgasm, but the ones that when we are done make me feel like I am closer to him.
Not all women orgasm easily, either, so it may take a while to figure it out, too. Just remember that the goal of sex is not orgasm, but intimacy.
2006-12-10 13:12:29 · answer #1 · answered by Maria 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not every woman has an orgasm through sex, there are different orgasms and they can be just as great and satisfying for a woman.
A woman can achieve orgasms through masturbating, you can help with this one.. why dont you do it for her?
Sex toys always help too, go into a sex store and explore the shop, you can find the most interesting and fun things to use.
Try doing different positions in bed that are aimed for womens pleasure only, do some research because every woman is capable of an orgasm.
You obviously love your wife, you need to do the best for her and the only way you can achieve that is talk to her about it, she needs to know how you feel and maybe she can tell you what you can improve on.
2006-12-08 23:19:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well..... normally I would say to ask her what she wants u to do to please her, but as she is inexperienced I would show her how she can have an orgasm. Without being dirty, all I can suggest is to try oral sex. Experience tells me this. See, I was kinda in the same position as her, in the fact that my husband wasn't pleasing me in bed. It wasn't till I met someone else that I learned how to have an orgasm. There r sooo many ways to please a woman, u have no idea. The female clitoris is really sensitive. Touch it the right way and she will orgasm over and over. Use ur hands, use ur tongue. Ok, use ur imagination.
I hope I've been a little help to u mate,
Good luck!
2006-12-08 22:46:00 · answer #3 · answered by kiwi_mum1966 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If your goal is helping her to climax, you have to talk to her about what makes her feel good. She has to explore her own body to find out how to pleasure herself. Once she finds out that she can help you to do it too. Realize also she probably won't have an orgasm with just intercourse. So once you figure out how she orgasms then you start out by pleasuring her first move on to intercourse and finish up with getting her to climax again. Satisified wife...happy husband!!
2006-12-09 01:27:06 · answer #4 · answered by Lydia 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
ahh wow you are a beautiful man! I understand you want to please her, but if it is not possible in a sexual way, remember that it is only a small section of life unless you decide to make it bigger. There is lots of scientific research done on females orgasms and how to create them, I reccomend some online research, the information is abundant, even wikipedia.org will help you out.
2006-12-08 22:38:05 · answer #5 · answered by Nate K 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You chump! I feel sorry for her. How do you even get turned on if you can't make her orgasm? Do you feel cheap, treating her like a whore? Wham bam thank you mam!? Instead of using your Internet connection to write this question, why don't you google search female orgasm? I am sorry for being a little hard on you but, seriously, cowboy up and get her to orgasm before you do. You seem thoughtful and selfish at the same time.
Cheers!
2006-12-09 02:43:29 · answer #6 · answered by Mister Advice Guy 1 · 1⤊ 4⤋
My magic spot is my clitoris, try that. Also make sure you are involved emotionally. Make love not just have sex.
2006-12-08 22:36:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
go get a sexual manual from the book store on how to get women to reach their peek, and you will see that you as a man really don't have a clue on how to do it
2006-12-08 22:37:02 · answer #8 · answered by free2chat_tou 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
God bless u and ur wife
2006-12-08 23:41:56 · answer #9 · answered by saad 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
talk to her about it...and practice practice practice..you will both get there..make her feel comfortable as possible
2006-12-09 01:29:47 · answer #10 · answered by CharlotteGrace 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋