i gave him the world sex was good everything but he told be he wanted he space then we had been together for 5months now its over he cheated on me with a girl at his job now he is with her he want call he just told me to get my stuff. an thats it just like that
yal could it been that it was getting to strong an he wanted no strings attached but if it was like that why did he fall in love with me , i feel used an abused i never want to be with any one again this is my secound time that this happen it took me 3 years just to get in this relationship now what
2006-12-08 22:10:24 · 16 answers · asked by sweetazzgurl901 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Now, dust yourself off, have time to yourself. Once you've got some confidence back it will be soon enough before you see someone else. Just accept he's moved on, don't pester him. Good Luck
2006-12-08 22:14:45 · answer #1 · answered by Agony Aunt 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is a lot more to a good relationship than sex. It seems to me that you are very needy and are looking for happiness through a man, that just isn't possible true happiness comes from within. Until you are a confident person who doesn't depend on others for happiness your problems will continue. It seems you are attracting this type of relationship. I strongly recommend you look into the book,Boundaries in Dating
by Dr. Henry Cloud, Dr. John Townsend, it is WONDERFUl. It will help you to be ready for a healthy relationship with boundries and escape the mistakes for the past. Otherwise you are going to be doomed to repeat the same mistakes and have the same relationship problems with different people.
Another good book is "He's just not into you" BUT read the boundry book first. It will help you to be ready for a healthy relationship next time.
I wish you the best!
PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE take that comment off your profile, you look desperate to get back this cheater who doesn't respect you or love you. How can you beg like that??? I strongly urge you to seek counseling as you need to work on your self esteem and break the cycle of getting into codependant relationships.
2006-12-09 06:18:56 · answer #2 · answered by Proud to be APBT 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound to me that he was in love with you. He may have been saying he was, just to be keeping you until he tired of you.
3 years may seem like along time, but it's really not when you stop and look back on this one now, huh?
Take your time!! The right one will come along, and they usually do once you stop looking.
Ok, so he used you. Well, it must of been good for you too, or you wouldn't have hung around. So, now, go get your stuff at his place and just go on!! He's a dawg!!! YOU knew it when you got mixed up with him.
2006-12-09 06:22:10 · answer #3 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound like he was in love with you, he could have been with you and been just wanting the sex. Doesn't mean he loved you, sounds like you were way too trusting and didn't learn from the first time it happened. Not trying to be mean, it's just from your own words.
Sex is not the basis for a relationship and it sounds like you were smothering him anyway. No one wants to be with someone who is totally dependent on them. Until you learn who you are and what you are about you will not be happy. I leave you with this...
2006-12-09 09:07:17 · answer #4 · answered by Wicked Good 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every one has bad relationship's and we all get through it. I just think you need to be more careful in future ok..Take care of number one and respect yourself. It took me two years once to get over a guy and now I can't believe that. Learn from your mistake's and move on-no man is worth crying over for years.Just be proud of what you have achieved as a person and love will find you when you least expect it...:)
2006-12-09 06:19:26 · answer #5 · answered by kel s 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry that really sucks. You just have to remember that song..."everybody plays the fool sometimes...",
This guy wasn't who you hoped he'd be. Try not to be sad, or angry, just try to be over it. If he has any cute friends, flirt with them. Just get out there and make yourself feel wanted, even if your heart's not really into it just yet. The point is not to waste energy on people who aren't worth it.
2006-12-09 06:17:21 · answer #6 · answered by niwriffej 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
forget him!!!he is sooOooooo self centered!!complete and utter fool!!go out with your frends,have fun and dont give a rats a!! about him ... he doesnt deserve u becoz your way better then him!!he cant handle that ur gawjess and he aint!!coz gurlee,u gotta be pretty onthe inside b4 u can b pretty on the outside, ur cool,u ROck!!and he sucks,he'll end up lonely and alone hun, and u'll end up with the man of your dreams!!go have lotsa fun fun fun!!! move on,ur fabulous!!! good luk =]
2006-12-09 06:17:26 · answer #7 · answered by janie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
MAYBE THATS WHERE YOUR GOING WRONG HUN YOUR GIVING TOO MUCH AND THERE TAKING ADVANTAGE I KNOOW ITS SO HARD AND THE THOUGHT OF ANOTHER RELATIONSHIP IS HARD RIGHT NOW BUT GIVE YOURSELF TIME THINK CAREFULLY ABOUT THE MEN YOU CHOOSE AND HOW MUCH YOU GIVE THIS MAN WAS NO GOOD ANYBODY THAT WOULD DO THAT IS A PIG DONT WASTE YOUR TIME TRYING TO THINK LIKE HIM HES SO NOT WORTH IT YOUR SO MUCH BETTER GOOD LUCK.
2006-12-09 06:24:45 · answer #8 · answered by keevy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget him for right now focus on yourself. I know it has to hurt bad. But sometimes (often) men are jerks.
It was not your fault. but its going to take you time to realise that.
you have to remember the inner qualities you have and remember you own self worth to get over the pain you are feeling
2006-12-09 06:19:15 · answer #9 · answered by whatukno 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You girls are always chasing the cute guys and then you wonder why you get dumped. Because the other girl is probably cuter, so thats why you have to choose wisely and not necessarily on vanity.
2006-12-09 06:19:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋