My wonderful brother in law was diagnosed with cancer only 10 weeks ago, and has a very short time left. I want to get him the perfect combined brithday and christmas gift. His health is flailing, but I want to get him something memorable rather that just another present. He has bowel cancer and cannot eat well, so a night out is out of the question. I thought a hot air balloon ride, but my sister says he would not be well enough to do that. Does anyone have any ideas?????
2006-12-08 21:54:49 · 13 answers · asked by bjjleb 1 in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ Cancer
I think the best gift for you brother-in-law is simply have good time with him. It is the more precious thing to my eyes. Sharing memories, take care of him, find the things he likes (ex: music)
and that could make him happy. Enjoy every minute with him.
The more important thing is to be loved by parents and friends.
I think he should appreciate this kind of things.
2006-12-08 22:41:02 · answer #1 · answered by All work and no play makes Jack a dull boy©™ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband was diagnosed with cancer in July of 2003 it was upper stomach and lower esophagus and went thru treatments and then sugery. We were told that he would probably live a year from the time he was diagnosed. I found the best gift was to talk about it and let him speak openly about how he feels. Maybe not in a group but one on one. There are alot of fears that a person has and it is not just that they know they are going to die but they are worried about the ones they leave behind. The have to know that it is alright to die and that someone will be there for his loved ones. It's not that you want to loose him in any way but sometimes they just try to hold on and hold on no matter how painful it is for them just not to upset their loved ones.
I think a nice gift would be to gather pictures of the family and put them together for him and talk about old memories and funny things that happened during his life with you. I think just letting him laugh and laugh with him is a great gift. Tell him how you feel about him. I know that they get very weak very quickly so you may want to think of something that will not take alot of time and do he does not over do. He will try to do things but then find out he is to weak and that makes them feel worse in the end. May a favorite movie and he can lie back in a recliner and the family can all come and watch together. Suggestion National Lampoons Christmas Vacation. No matter how many times you watch this movie you laugh every time. Good luck and God Bless
I know what your family is going thru. My husband died in June of 2004 1 year.
2006-12-09 05:53:24 · answer #2 · answered by remar0 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Time spent with his family would be something he will most appreciate. Maybe help out around the house with errands and helping to keep the house clean or cook for them or something so they can spend time together. A lot of our pts who are 'sent home' have friends and family in their house 24/7 just for that reason. They don't have anything to do but spend time with their loved one and make some more precious memories. Maybe take some pictures and make a scrap book for the family before he passes so he can enjoy seeing it and remember the good times?
2006-12-09 14:09:06 · answer #3 · answered by Weasel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd get him a small soccer ball (they have sizes on them, although i am not certain which dimension is right for a 3 12 months historic). What little boy does not love a ball? I've gotten my brothers physical activities balls on a couple of occasions and they've constantly adored them. The pleasant thing could be for those who performed with the ball with him sometime. Three yr olds don't always realize "grants" and what they signify, but they do comprehend and love nice time.
2016-08-10 00:45:16 · answer #4 · answered by reeve 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband has been diagnosed with an incurable form of NHL. The best gift you can give your brother in law is your love. and a promise to be there for his wife and family when the time comes. I did find one gift for my husband that he has very much enjoyed and that is a journal that he keeps to his children. It's called a "Father's Legacy" you can purchase it through Hallmark. It has all the questions in it about his live and dreams and hopes for his children. It asks the hard questions that our children will someday ask and he is able to give them an answer in this book, knowing he won't be here when they actually do ask the questions. It is a wonderful gift for someone who is terminal, it gives them a cahnce to communicate with their family even after they are gone.
2006-12-09 06:24:31 · answer #5 · answered by sunflower38024 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Time-a collage of family photos-a funny movie-contact an old friend and have him stop by-if he likes animals, borrow one like a dog and bring it over for the day-a care package of things to bring him up like the movie, a funny magazine, etc. Honestly, when I thought I was dying of endometrial cancer, I wanted more than anything to see some of the people I loved the most from my past. I wanted someone to contact them for me.
2006-12-09 01:36:32 · answer #6 · answered by catzrme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I may sound crazy, but you can do something to really enhance your brother-in-law's health condition.
Find for him the herb called Aristolochia Clematitis. It has performed many miracles in colon cancer treatments.
But ATTENTION ! The herb is toxic, so don't make him INGEST IT ! It is only for external use !
You said it's about bowel cancer... can you tell me the exact location of the tumor ? Maybe I could complete my answer with further details.
Pray for him and make him laugh ! Lots and lots of laughs ! I've read about a guy who has been sent home with cancer and only two weeks left (according to the doctors). He rented comedies and cartoon movies, and laughed all day. After a month of laughing, wondering why he's not dead, he went to his doctor for a consultation. And the doctor remained completely puzzled, because the guy was cured ! No sign of cancer !
2006-12-09 00:08:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
Why not the gift of memories and pictures, help your sister to put together all the family pictures together and memories in a book and spend time, going back, laughting, crying etc together.
2006-12-08 22:01:28 · answer #8 · answered by kate 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This sounds like one where you will have to ask him. I was going to suggest a trip somewhere until I read the rest of your question. If he's into something like crafts or painting maybe some supplies so that he could make all of you something to help remember him with.
2006-12-08 22:00:43 · answer #9 · answered by clueless_nerd 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe food is still not out of the question. I heard of someone making a finely blended soup in the same situation.
Or, put christimas in the room where he is, meaning you guys really celebrate it there!
2006-12-08 22:01:33 · answer #10 · answered by Josh M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋