i dont know what i have this feeling right now,i admit im still inluv my husband eventhough he gave me a lot of pain and heartache.sometimes i cant help it to cry especially when when im looking a happy family.My husband betrayed me and cheted me alot of times and now he is living with somebody.he wants to come back with me again but i didnt accept him because everytime im thinking of all the pain he gave to me i feels like he crashing my heart.The LAST TIME i talked to him i said dont call me anymore and dont bother my life and my kids anymore and i told him that i will not push him anymore for the childsupport for our kids,because his not really responsible father for my kids and he also have kids with the other girl,not this new girl.but the mother of his two kids in states they are separated now and have a new one in his life now.i didint know all about this until his mother told me that.i was so stupid i admit it just that i trusted him so much.how can i move on with this?
2006-12-08 21:32:46 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ria , you owe it to yourself and your children to move on with your life . Thats easy for me to say I know but you must find someone else that you can trust in your life inorder to move on . Good luck to you and your family .
2006-12-08 21:42:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ria, I feel for you , extricating yourself after having attached yourself to this living nightmare of a man. I admire you for telling him to keep out of your life, no matter how hard that is for you. If a part of you still loves him, maybe accepting that these are illogical feelings and that it could be the loss of perfect marriage you probably expected to have that is making you emotional over him. Clearly he is a heel and will go on to hurt many other trusting caring women like yourself.
I agree that you should not let him off with child support. You and your children still need to live. He needs to know the consequences of such destructive actions, and if you let him off scot-free, he will think nothing of doing it again and again to others. It won't hurt to slow him down by the hip pocket.
Life will get better and it will start with your own self respect. You have done a brave hard thing, and life might not be easy, but it won't be in the emotional gutter where he would have you be. You will get over him, give it a bit of time - and you will make a good life for yourself. Promise! :)
Contact me if you need someone to talk to.
2006-12-08 21:45:35 · answer #2 · answered by AJ... Australia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your english is fine. Good for you that you refused to take him back. You are 100% right in the way you are thinking ahead with your head and not your heart. Sometimes when we have children relying on us, we have to be strong and make the right decisions. If you took him back it would be the same thing over and over again. Stick to your guns and as hard as it may be in a year or two you will realise that you made the right decision. Especially if he is living with another woman. Who knows what he comes home with (Aids etc). I wish you strength and courage to make the right decision. Best of luck and have a Peaceful Christmas. xx
2006-12-08 21:39:19 · answer #3 · answered by Vonnie S 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are making a good decision about not taking him back but not a good decision about not asking him to support you and his kids financially, go see a lawyer(they provide them for free) and make sure that your ex husband will support you and the kids until they are mature enough to support themselves. good luck!
2006-12-08 21:38:08 · answer #4 · answered by livinhapi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just forget about him and don't believe if he's saying he loves you and he won't hurt you anymore; he's lying. Try to stay away from him and look after your kids, you'll manage.
2006-12-08 21:37:48 · answer #5 · answered by milena_cub 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move away, with your kids, and make sure you stay out of contact with him. Good Luck!!!
2006-12-08 21:35:13 · answer #6 · answered by Caity 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋