My girlfriend is pregnant but i am not ready for baby. Should I just leave her also?

Question

I got a few women pregnant and left. She is nicer but I am getting that urge to leave her.

Answer 1

Grow some balls. Do not leave her.

Answer 2

First. You can ignore all the hateful people answering your question. You made a mistake, might make another. This makes you human, not an a**hole. Since it takes two to tango, your girlfriend is equally responsible, including understanding that her partner made no promise or gave any evidence to lead her to believe that if she gets pregnant, you will be there for her. I think many women like to hope for the best, without accepting the worst might be happening to them.
So, I would just take it slow. Think about the decisions you are going to make. What would you be glad you did in five years? Ten years? My case was very similar to yours. For me, being there daily, in a child-care type role just makes me very tired and unhappy. But, I do like to work and make money. I've decided to use my time to make sure that my son will have as many oppurtunities and advantages as I can give him. Unfortunately, this is a long hard process also, but anything worth doing usually is. I know that the investment I am making now toward education and making money will serve everyone well in the future. If I don't put the work in now, I know we will simply never get there.
I was very unhappy at my girlfriend's decision to have my son and keep him, but now I know that this is the decision that makes the most sense for her. Now I can appreciate it also, because it motivated me to take my life more seriously, to look at where I was at and where I was heading. To ask the tough questions, like why I was blowing off college over and over. Why I was not happy with things around me. Why I didn't care about myself too much. Why I was more likely to just go with the flow and have fun in unhealthy ways. Slowly, I am making changes, and making the world around me a place which makes me happy, and which makes me able to give to others. I think many people ignore the fact that some people really feel terrible and/or unhappy most of the time, and expect them to just snap out of it and do things the "right" way. Of course, you didn't ask to be born, and have people tell you how to live. It's up for you to decide that.

Answer 3

If this is a serious question, then here is my serious answer:
If you dont want to be with her, thats fine, but you should still help out with the baby financially and supportively. She wouldnt be pregnant if it wasnt for you! i know baby's are daunting, but believe me, she is probably just as terrified as you!. The difference is she cant run away like you can.
If you stick around you might actually come to love and want this baby.

I am 22 yrs old and 6 months pregnant, i was only with my boyfriend for 6 months when we accidentily fell pregnant. We werent sure at first what to do but we discussed it and with only 4ish months to go we couldnt be happier and excited about this baby coming into our lives. Mayb the same thing will happen to you??

Whatever you decide, i wish you good luck. You may decide to leave her and have nothing to do with your baby... but just think you might want to know your daughter or son one day and you'll have to explain why you left their mother and never was there for them.. that would be sad.. good luck.

Answer 4

A few other women pregnant and left them? what happen to the/ur babies? NO u shouldn't just leave her. Its fine to be scared .....having a baby is a major responsibility. but if your that scared imagine what ur gf is going through. Shes going to be moody, maybe even a little annoying, but remember shes got a person growing inside of her! Now that shes pregnant you cant just leave her. the fact that you say just "leave them" is really nuts.
It really bakes my noodle that you think its okay to get girls pregnant and leave them!!! You shouldn't have sex if you cant deal with being a dad!!!!!
Not trying to be hateful, or judgmental but you asked!

Answer 5

You are a disgrace to men and its ppl like you who bring bad name to all men on earth.
If you where man enough to put ur dick in her p_u_s_s_y. Then you have to be prepared to face any consequences.
Pls do all of us a favour and kill yourself. Atleast some women can save themselfs from ending you with ur child in them and getting dumped.
Dude, i know that i am not being of much help to you by speaking like this. But trust me when i say, just be glad that you are not a friend of mine. If you where, i would have beaten the s_h_i_t out of you when you dumped the first lady. Its a serious issue, every child NEEDS a mother & father. Pls grow up and promise yourself not to dump this female.
No pregnancy is accidental. A child is the gift of God and you should accept it with a open heart. You should celebrate that you are becoming a father and not cry about it.

Answer 6

No.. It's understandable to be scared, a lot of men about to become fathers are, but don't like to admit it out loud and even to themselves sometimes. Fight the urge to leave, and instead of running, here's the opportunity for you to show your gf you are a real man -- even if, at times, you don't want to grow up. You had the fun, now you can decide here and now to face up to your responsibilites and consequences of having that fun. Take your gf in your arms and tell her you'll stand by her and be the daddy to your baby. Gotta grow up sometime! May as well be now. ;)

Answer 7

Your track record shows your irresponsible and don't care about your actions. You would have thought you would have learnt the first time. A the end of the day it's your decision but just remember that's your child she carrying, will give brith too, and ultimately raise alone. I'm 7 months pregnant myself, and unlike many of my friends I'm lucky enough to have my partner with me through all of this. Your not ready, but just think you'll never get to hear your child call you daddy, never get to see them take their first steps, or be there to congratulate them when they do well at school. You may be scared at first but you'll be missing out on one of the biggest miracles.

Answer 8

No, just do what you can. Parenthood has a way of making people grow up very quickly. You don't have to marry this woman or even stay in a relationship with her, but you can still be a father to your child in whatever way you are capable.

Please, do be vigilant about birth control in the future. It isn't fair for you to be having all these children without providing them with a father.

Answer 9

You obviously aren't man enough to take responsibility for your actions and be a father to your child. Do yourself and any future women you may be involved with a favor and get a vasectomy. As for the children that are already here, I hope the mothers all nail you for child support.

Answer 10

It sounds like you need a girlfriend like Loraine Bobbit to chop that thing off you have. You sure got nerves to be coming on here to ask a question like that. Why are you such a F*cker to have to go F*ck all these women and get them pregnant and leave them. All it sounds like to me is you are not a man and you don't deserve to even have a P*nis and you sure don't even have balls.

Answer 11

You can't just get a chick pregnant and leave.
You shouldn't have unprotected sex until you're ready to face the consequences, and that means babies, should it occur.
Be a man and face up to your new found family before the cops come after you and make you pay.