Women are judged by how many men she sleeps with,why isn't it she same for men?

Question

Girls get called horrible names when they have various sex partners, but men are considered to be "cool" if they sleep with alot of girls.What's the difference?

Answer 1

People can yell double standard all they want but the truth is women get called sluts and men get praised b/c sex is easily attainable for women and not men. All any women has to do is say who wants some and guess how many men would jump in? A guy has to impress a lady enough to convince her he's worthy to be the lucky guy she picks. Thats why men get the praise for getting laid and women don't.

Answer 2

This is a question I have asked a lot too in real life, or out loud should I say.

Most of the answers I get people usually reply that they really don't know and they aren't buying it. Hence maybe in high school where the maturity is low do people truly believe this myth.

I think women that sleep around and men that sleep around arent too intelligent with whats going on these days, unless they are safe and enjoy the lifestyle safely. Most women that I hve known of prefer the guy that hasn't had a lot of partners anyways. So whos impressing who by calling him a stud? He's impressing the guys but the girls are shunning him?

Answer 3

It is the age old question that a women is a slag if she has many partners but a man is a superstud. Both should be treat as the same in this day and age. It is all down to choice at the end of the day. It will take generations to change peoples views but it will change eventually. It was always seen as allright for the man to sleep around whilst the women were expected to be pure. But who married the women he slept with!!!! Then equality beacme in and things changed and women rightly now do whatever they want. No one is right and no one is wrong for how many people they sleep with it is their own free choice.

Ps I am a bloke.

Answer 4

"Boys will be boys", right? That mindset is so annoying, I agree with you. Our society seems to be ok with those gender roles. A lot of it seems to be attributed to power and control issues regarding women. We are supposed to be beautiful and quiet. If we overstep our bounds and do something that feels good for us, like maybe going out with a few guys, we're disrupting the natural order of things and are therefore sluts. I don't really think this double standard is going to go away any time soon. You could also say that the male anthropological role in history has been to "spread his seed" to as many women as possible thus procreating at maximum efficiency. So due to biological urges it has always been more acceptable for a man to go from partner to partner without social disgrace. I say, don't put too much stock into labels people give you. Be happy with yourself and do what is right for you, and if someone's going to talk negatively about you, it just makes them look ignorant.

Answer 5

I personally think that the bias against women having multiple partners goes back to ancient civilization, and actually started out having a practical purpose, to some extent.
For starters, a common display of wealth in older civilizations was to have more than one wife, and a man's prestige determined how many wives he could afford. It's not a hard leap to think that these could become interchangeable symbols, with men thinking that more wives make them prestigious, instead of the other way around. Another reason is that men are genetically inclined to impregnate as many women as possible in hopes of propogating our species, and that the other men are basically patting him on the back as a reward for his accumulation of sexual conquests. They see it as a sign of virility.
Women are also inclined to propogate, but we're bound by necessity from having sex willy-nilly the way that men do (genetics also helps us along here by making us more inclined to be emotionally bound to our mates as opposed to just using them like a turkey baster). The necessity stems from women being historically dependent upon men for their safety and survival. It was pretty hard to get along alone in the wilderness with a baby in your stomach and another at your breast. Men served the purpose of actually being protectors. However, that man would probably not claim or care for children that he did not father, nor for a mate that kept giving birth to other men's children, and if a woman slept with many men, the patrimony of her children could certainly be called into question, resulting in possible abandonment. Hence, the survival of the family was directly related to the woman's fidelity.
This isn't really true anymore, but the double standard has certainly survived. To me, this is a pretty fair reason for why men are generally held in esteem for having multiple partners, while women are shunned. Just my own theory.

Answer 6

Labels are a way of keeping people under control. A lot of them spawn from the bible which many of us believe were written by men to keep society and particularly women behaving in aa way that is convenient.
Some , such as s lut can be made generic, ie., applying to both men and women equally, and in that way lose their impact. However we are freed from them as soon as we stop worryiing about them. Learn to embrace as many of them as you can I have an effinity with the word b itch, because when it comes down to it it really means a women who knows how to ruffle male composure. Most empowering and a tad entertaining when you think of it.

Answer 7

Girls cheekish. Men Bravado

Answer 8

I don't know what circles you hang in, but I don't think most people consider the guy with multiple partners "cool" as much as chiks who are jealous of the lifestyle. Am I wrong??? Who thinks the guy with multiple partners is cool?

Answer 9

In this day and age you should look at it this way... male or female... Anyone that has had sex with lots of different people has a higher chance of carring more STD's... protect or unprotect sex... Some STD's can be transfered even with protection.

Answer 10

The difference is that you're a girl and he's a boy. There's no answer to this that's of any interest to anyone. It's just the way that it is.