ive been with my boyfriend for 9 months. and is it ok to lose your virginity? i love him and he loves me. but how do u know if you are ready? im 25 yrs old and he is 30. he takes good care of me. and he told me that he will take care of me if i do get pregnant with his child. and i know he will. not just because of my faith but because he is deeply honerable and loving. and im not just saying that. it is true. im so proud of him. he was a marine and he survived. i just love him so much. i go to church. but before that i always knew to wait for the right person. and he is. i just need to know what everyone else suggest i do. to make sure im not jumping in the deep end of the pool so to speak
from stephanie
2006-12-08 20:31:11 · 16 answers · asked by yp_stephanie_el_monte 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If your question is how do you know if you can share it with a boyfriend, the answer is....share it. It sounds like you are in a good, commited, secure relationship, and before marriage is a good time to discuss these things.
You say you go to church. If you believe in the bible, it says to not commit adultery, including sex outside of marriage.
I'm not saying it would banish you from heaven or anything, but it might be difficult to explain to your kids somday...
2006-12-08 20:39:18 · answer #1 · answered by Steve 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're twenty five, you've dated nine months, and you are in love.
Do it already!!!
You sound like you are more than prepared.
Also, don't let people scare you into the "no sex before marriage" thing. You should never marry someone until you've had sex. How can you jump in to something as serious as marriage without knowing that you are sexually compatible?
I would suggest using protection if you aren't 100% sure that you are both ready for a child. Are you aware that the average cost of raising a child is $500,000 from birth through college?
Also, has he been sexually active? If so, ask him if he would be willing to be tested for STDs. I know it can be an embarrassing subject, but he could have an STD and not even know it. If he really loves you, he will do this without giving it a second thought.
Check the sources box for a link to some quick STD info.
2006-12-09 04:41:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
speaking from experience:
My only advice would be, if you want to be married before having sex don't "jump in the deep end". Your beliefs are important and a part of you.
IF you're waiting for someone special then practice safe sex or DEMAND a std screening be done.(they're only @ $60 and takes 24hrs) because then you will be confident that both of you are safe with each other. It is a loving thing to do.
2006-12-09 04:45:42 · answer #3 · answered by season c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a relationship is not plainly about having sex or not. if u really think that sex can make you closer, you're wrong. its just a portion of the relationship that can be replaced with other things. but if you think you're ready for sex and feels that he's the right fella, there's no harm giving it a try. but then always practise safe sex. sex isn't just about getting pregnant... its emotional. even if he runs away after u do get pregnant, life stil goes on rite? its really about the memory. who took your first time and was it worth all that you've been saving for. so decide well... good luck.
2006-12-09 04:49:49 · answer #4 · answered by joeiii 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, 25 huh? sounds like you got a good thing. 9 mos? Yeah, he must love you.Do NOT HAVE A BABY FOR A YEAR. Make sure youguys are compatible. Things can change drastically in a month and all of a sudden your splitting up and you both have a kid.
2006-12-09 04:34:20 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are truly a God fearing woman than you would wait for marriage. Because you still don't know if he is the right person. Because you are a virgin he may just want to be your first. Wait until marriage you've waited this long.
2006-12-09 04:37:53 · answer #6 · answered by D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you sure asked a sorry lot of people for such an important question... buy hey... I'll bite...
your 25 and still V. I think you have earned the right too take a serious look at him.... if not now... when... 30, 40? yrs old...
you have a choice, marry, then do it, do it or don't... ever....
2006-12-09 04:34:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound more like 15 than 25 and I don't doubt that he's 30 - if everything is great.... run to the preacher - get married - then have sex
2006-12-09 04:37:08 · answer #8 · answered by kim 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're ready to have sex with him, you're ready to marry him. Why not just get married? Get pregnant with his child and let him take care of you then.
2006-12-09 04:34:15 · answer #9 · answered by ♥ Cliff 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make him marry you first he is 30 what is he waiting for?
2006-12-09 04:35:11 · answer #10 · answered by mony 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋