There is this girl I like and she is mostly "anti touch " she was when I met her and for alittle while after. but we have grown closer and i really like her, but I think she will not like to hold hands or hug or anything even though I am a more touchy kind of guy I mean with everybody I always love hugs. She likes me and she knows I like her. so wht do you think I should do ? and I want mature answers, and please do not mention sex I am saving that for marraige
2006-12-08 20:21:39 · 12 answers · asked by 1-4-all 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You have to respect her boundaries and leave her alone. If someone does not want to be touched, there is nothing you can do about that. As she grows closer to you, maybe she will change her mind and want to be more physically affectionate. For now, tell her how you feel (you would love to hold her hand, hug her, etc), and that you respect her desire to not be touched. Let her know that you will not "make a move" on her, but that if she ever decides that she wants to hold your hand or whatever, that she is welcome to do that.
Keep in mind that if affection is important to you, she is probably not the right girl for you. If she does not change, then you are going to be left feeling neglected and unfullfilled. It will hurt your spirit in the long run, so be careful.
2006-12-08 20:26:39 · answer #1 · answered by bashnick 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like young kids. She probably just feels too young to be touching. When she's in high school or beyond she'll be cool with it. Try just acting your age. Just have fun going out and doing things with her.
2006-12-09 04:25:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A touchy feelign guy is VERY annoying if you aren't interested in them in that way. It could also be too much to soon, then they ruin their chances for later.
2006-12-09 04:23:51 · answer #3 · answered by double v 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should ask her can i hold your hand? can I rub your back?, eventually can I kiss you?, thats how I approached it with my wife back in the day and that was 5 years ago
2006-12-09 04:25:36 · answer #4 · answered by Arizona is Hot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your asking the wrong people... I don't want too hold your hands... how about asking your friend?
but she has a point.. the less contact.. possibly the less chance of anything happening... but in a way that is silly... but what is she comfortable with?
2006-12-09 04:24:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think ur a nice guy who is decent and acts gentleman around her. just continue to walk close beside her, and when she feels comfortable, then she will probably let u squeeze her hand or put ur arms around her.
2006-12-09 04:23:49 · answer #6 · answered by blingding 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
good 4 u. Savin 4 marage is best. im doin that 2
merry christmas!
2006-12-09 11:14:47 · answer #7 · answered by * ♥ * ♥ W ♥ * ♥ * 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
aww how sweet
1.uh ok ask her if she wants ta hold hands
2. Just touch her hand n and see wat she does her face reatction
oh and remember thid is a gurl point of view
3.tell her how much u like her then grab her hand to hold it
and thats my answer
2006-12-09 04:25:32 · answer #8 · answered by Desiree 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
just give her a hug and if she doesnt like it it wont be a deal breaker
2006-12-09 04:24:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she is jus shy, n gets embarrased easily, give her time.
2006-12-09 04:24:05 · answer #10 · answered by Duffsta 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋