this might seem strange but my parents love my kids (their grandkids) way more than they love me. im glad they are good grangparents but they never gave me the love or kindness they give my children. does anyone else feel this way?
2006-12-08 20:14:57 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Jump at the chance for this to be the case. Would you really want them to treat your children the way they treated you? Commend your parents for figuring out the mistakes they made as they struggled with having children. They obviously are getting it right the second time through!!!
2006-12-09 00:36:10 · answer #1 · answered by spag 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my mother always says "i wished i was a grandmother before i became a mother"...
it doesnt offend me, it just shows me that they love their grandkids, and dont be silly, of course your parents gave you love and kindness... but in a parental role... they show their love and kindness to their grandkids in a different way, because they are older, they have finished raising their kids (you) and now they want to enjoy family time with the little ones. and at the end of the day, your parents know that they can hand your kids back when they start to be naughty, but when you were naughty as a kid, they were stuck with it!
2006-12-08 20:18:16 · answer #2 · answered by He moonwalked on my <3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a feeling that you cannot even describe...you can only experience it!!! ( I wish my mother was alive today, so I could tell her that I finally understand! I wish I could tell her that I KNOW!!!) I now have grand children of my own...and my mother used to always say: "You just wait!" "Someday you will have your own, and you will finally understand the feeling!"
There is something so unique and UN describable! As a woman, you think there is NO greater love that you could possibly EVER feel that the love between a mother and her child...that precious tiny person that has grown inside of you...flesh of your flesh...blood of your blood...why...you have literally been IT's life and breath for nine months...you have felt every little "flutter" kick...every elbow..knee..arm..leg...and stretch that the baby has had for the past five months or so....you feel that tiny little miracle growing inside of your belly> why even the "hiccups" the crying...
the exercising..all of the "getting ready" that the baby goes through to reach that final day of his or her first "live" appearance...you as the mother are there..you feel it all...and you love it all!!! No one (but the mother of an unborn child!) knows the secret hours you have spent talking to your baby...petting your baby through your own flesh...all of the secrets you have shared..your dreams...your hopes...your fears...the worry about all the "what if's"... yes...there is so much that a mother shares with her unborn child...that is why there is NO greater love on this earth than a MOTHER'S love....but wait...there IS more....now...after having loved a nutured this little miracle for nine months...and then 18 plus more years...you have still been there...watching this little person grow...kissing the skinned knees... drying the tears of hurt, fear, and dissapointment..cooling the fever...holding the little head over the comode... while feeling so helpless....because all you can do is get the wet wash cloth...cleaning up all the messes..the diapers, the bottles...now...all of the "firsts"...there is just NOT enough time or space on this page to really convey the feelings a mother has for her child... the inate feelings of nurturing..protecting..and you know... as your child grows..they become an independent...responsible adult ...and they no longer need all of the care any mor...they grow and develop new love for others...(which is a natural part of life..until THEY meet that one special person to now share their whole life with...and create NEW life ...YOUMUST KNOW THIS love...before you can KNOW (or judge!) the NEXT LOVE>>>>
And THAT, my friend...is the LOVE of a GRAND MOTHER!!! You now have a new little person to help love and nuture again!!! And that NEW little person...is an extention of the child that you have loved for so long!!! YOUR CHILD!!!! and so goes the "circle of life"!!!! It is the greatest love on earth...compared only to God's love....a mother and child...It is only natural for that love to grow even more into the next generation..to your grand children. So you see...the love is not greater at all. It could not even be if it were not for the "child"...the one whom the mother has loved all of thier life...YOU!!!!
I hope this has given you a little "insite" to how your mother feels about your children..if it were not for her love for you...there could be no love for your children...there would only be "caring"...and that is enough for now...I don't want to take up any more space!!!
She loves your children because they are a PART of you!!!!
2006-12-08 22:41:07 · answer #3 · answered by photogram1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand where you are coming from, but now as my parents have gotten a lot older and I have lost my father, I can see looking back at how much they do and did love me. They had more time without pressures in their lives to shower love onto their grandchildren, than they ever had when bringing me up and I can understand now that daily pressures do take their tole. My father also had an incredibly close relationship with my husband and I accused my husband many times of spending more time with my dad than he did with me. But now dad is gone I am glad they both had that time as it made my dad's life so much more pleasant and my husband misses him greatly. So try not to worry about how it may seem as I am sure that if you told your mother how you felt she would be shocked to hear it.
2006-12-08 20:59:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't take it the wrong way. Grandparents don't have to discipline and therefore can show love more openly. I am sure your parents loved you, they just had to discipline you and their love may not have been so noticeable. I am a grandparent, and can tell you it is very different, you love them, you play with them and you leave the discipline to the parents because the parents wouldn't have it any other way. So just enjoy the love they give to your children and don't feel slighted. You were very loved, and are very loved still.
2006-12-08 22:04:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a young grandmother to two grandchildren. yes I can relate to this totally. I love my son with all my heart, but the love I have for my grandchildren is a more relaxed confident love, as I dont have the responsibility of raising them and worrying about them all the time. It is a different love, but doesnt mean they love you less. Trust me, I have had this conversation with my son many times. I think he understands it more now. Dont worry about it, it is normal.
2006-12-08 21:43:35 · answer #6 · answered by Vonnie S 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that's a very good question! I also have a son and consistently puzzled if I have been to have yet another newborn, will my love experience comparable to I do for my son? properly I form of expertise responsible if i like greater or much less for my babies. So its terrific to declare we adore our babies the same. each newborn is distinctive, moms and dads can understand youngster's skill. Its not approximately how lots love we provide them, Its greater of the variety you push your newborn to their finished skill.
2016-10-18 00:32:19 · answer #7 · answered by kigar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats what happens everywhere, even we will love our grandkids more than our kids, because they dont have the burden to raise a good kid, they give only their love to grand kids.
2006-12-08 20:29:33 · answer #8 · answered by grefriend 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand that my mother love my daughter too much that she forget everyone else specially me knowing I baby in the family. So I understand.
2006-12-08 20:20:43 · answer #9 · answered by Smiley/Mr. Sho 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes.. its normal.. grandparents love their grand children more that their kids..
just like in the saying 'you love ur income more than the money in your pocket'
2006-12-08 23:41:01 · answer #10 · answered by labs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋