because when i'm thinking of it, it reminds me of a revenge...
2006-12-08 20:03:17 · 14 answers · asked by jomar t 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It can last a life time.
You have the choice to let it destroy you or you can figure out that you need to put it behind you and move on, Because you are a seperate person from her now.
Make your own life.
Revenge just begets problems.
Best to just live your life the best you can and let the past stay in the past.
2006-12-08 20:08:23 · answer #1 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sorry for your pain. I also have issues with my mother. In her mind, she did her best for her children. I think differently. btw I am 44. I love her. Yesterday, was her 66th birthday.
Here are a couple of references that help me.
Louise b. Hay "You Can Heal Your Life"
It is a new age type book (it astounds me that I was able to pay real money for it - because I normally do not believe in that garbage). In it she suggests you imagine your parent as a scared 4 year old child - (it helps if you have a picture of them at that age) and remember inside every adult is still that scared 4 year old. It makes it easier to forgive them.
My interpretation; Parents are people too. People make mistakes because no one is perfect. Acknowledge that there were mistakes made and move on with your life.
Dale Carnegie
"How to Stop Worrying and Start Living"
and/or "How to Win Friends and Influence People"
Live you life in 'daytight' compartments. Deal with what happens today, today and let the past rest and the future will take care of itself.
Revenge only hurts those who are plotting it. The other person is out there living their life blissfully unaware and you are allowing it to tear you up inside.
My interpretation; you do not get revenge, it only hurts you to plot it, but ususually somehow karma works. Do you like the tv show "My name is Earl"?
Good luck kiddo, hope my perspective on this helps a little.
2006-12-08 20:47:56 · answer #2 · answered by bttrswt1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-13 05:37:53 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ouch. She must have done something really bad for you to feel bitter like this. Revenge is not a good thing to feel for your mom. Wish I knew more of your situation, then maybe I could understand why you feel so bitter. Then I could help you.
2006-12-08 22:12:35 · answer #4 · answered by Vonnie S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you have to ask yourself are you bitter for what she has done or are you bitter for the bad choices you have made and that she has let you bear the consequences as an adult. I had bitterness to my mom, and sometimes I am still angry but at her age I ask myself is it worth it? I lost my sister to breast cancer in my whole family she was my best friend its been almost 14 years and I stilll miss her. I raised her son who was three at the time and no one who could help me helped me. I could be bitter but why?
2006-12-08 22:31:15 · answer #5 · answered by An American in Ireland 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 70 years old and it's the same as it's always been. Love wanes, hate stays forever.
2006-12-08 23:38:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have for almost 13 years.
2006-12-08 20:04:57 · answer #7 · answered by hinshawbaker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is related to several factors: size of problem, your love for your mom, how many other problems in your life.
2006-12-08 20:09:38 · answer #8 · answered by falouzay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have for almost 20 years now... and I suspect I will die with it.
2006-12-08 23:22:36 · answer #9 · answered by luckylady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm going on 6 years now
2006-12-08 20:05:12 · answer #10 · answered by tomiyo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋