Depression question?

Question

I have been reading up and thinking about my problem for years. I have overcome most of it and understand a great deal of what is going on inside my head. I even wrote a research paper on it two weeks ago. So why am I up at three in the morning, a nervous wreck because I think one of my friends has abandoned me? Furthermore, only because I called them on the phone once yesterday and once today and recieved no reply. Despite the fact this person has told me I am like family, why do I try now to convince myself they were just using me for some unknown reason? Why have I gone over everything I have said to her for the last three weeks, analyzing every word said trying to find a reason for this, one hopeless delusional scenario right after the one before it?

Answer 1

I'm alot like that too. I dont know about you, but i was alone alot as a little kid. I guess when you find out someone cares about you, you get obsessed with making sure it doesnt all screw up. Its all about security. I think you need to recognise that some people will care about you despite the occasional stupid things you may do or say.

Answer 2

Hey, lighten up on yourself! As you have realized you are going over things again and again. That's just it.

What am saying is that I understand that these feelings are painful and unpleasant, but you've moved beyond the worst part, because you're analysing them, and editorialising them! I hope this helps you to extend the conversation beyond yourself. I would suggest, and I have read this sort of thing in various place, having had similar feelings - that you simply go outside and do something unusual for the sake of simply enjoying the day. Go some place and take in the atmosphere. Focus on doing that. Today, do not try to deal with this particular issue. And what happens is, we give ourself some space and recreate the context of solving problems, and also renew our constructive ability to create new opportunities.

You may have to automatically head out and do something (preferably outdoors if possible) if you not actually inspired to have fun at the moment. But trust me this is part of a great process that will work to work through these things. But remember, today is not the day to work through this issue.

Good luck!

Answer 3

Knowing something in your head is, unfortunately, not the same as feeling it in your heart. We really are trapped by our minds. It's like being an aerospace engineer, knowing every detail of the physics of flight and the plane you're in, but still being afraid to fly.

It's funny, because I'm going through a bit of the same situtation with someone I care about as well. I'm fantastic at reading my friends' situtations, so I *know* what's going on. But it doesn't stop me from feeling anxiety and worrying about things that are well out of my control.

It's hard to let go. Perhaps you need to trust the other person and you'll learn that it's ok. Or if it's serious enough, seek medical attention.

Answer 4

dude, you're going through something everybody goes through. but it's just that,most of them keep it inside and you've decided to let it go in yahoo answers. haha.. seriously, what you're going through is very normal. all you have to do is change your attention on something else. there are so many many things which can catch your attention. don't keep focus on this. the more you think about it, the more you feel abandoned and alone. call up a friend a talk to them. do something exciting! don't lock yourself up within 4 walls with this problem in your head. for all you know, they are not avoiding you and the only reason why they've kept the distance is because they're busy or something like that. IF they are avoiding you, ditch them and turn to something else. just bear in mind that without confusions, there isn't excitement. cheers mate!

Answer 5

i understand what your going through cause i am the same way..when my husband was deployed i was a wreck...i worried all of the time what he was doing or if he was decieving me, when i knew in my heart he wasnt that kind of person. sometimes it only took one comment from someone to make me think that he was doing somthing wrong. it took me a long time to get over it but i did just like you and sat there and thought of times that he has told he loved and the things he has done for me..and believe it or not..try thinking about all of the things that that person has done to gain your trust and why they are a close friend of yours..think about a moment that ,that person has done somthing for you that noone has. and sometimes it makes you realize that they are a true friend. i hope my advice helped you a some way and not confused you.

Answer 6

Dude, I have been in the same boat....about this time last year when my dear husband was overseas in a tour of duty....I felt abandoned....insecure....and I too had a problem with a sister-in-law like this....now I don't even talk to her, she finally drove me off for good because of the way she was.....I too, thought she was trying to just be better than me....act smarter and stuff than me....I too, had to repeat myself several times as to why I had said stuff to her.....I feel ya.....I have an anxiety problem anyways....a pretty bad one at times....and I too, go through this....yeah, I too, am stilll up...am supposed to get up early and run errands....lol....I don't know if this has helped, but I can get where you're coming from.....just hang in there....try to not worry....best of luck to ya.....

Answer 7

Sounds more like you have abandonment issues or low self esteem to think your good friend is blowing you off after two days.

Answer 8

Read some of Dr. Wayne Dyer's work. It will change your whole perspective on life for the better.

Answer 9

don't worry be happy, keep positive and no more depression