when u loos it,and after that what did u think?
2006-12-08 19:51:12 · 16 answers · asked by oops 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think it depends on the girl and the guy that she lost her virginity to. Girls, from an early age, receive mixed messages on sex. The media saturates us with sexual images and suggestion. Our peers may act like it is no big deal, while our religion and our mentors say that sex is something special and to wait for the right person.
Women associate sex with love far more than men do... so if the woman feels rejected immediately following the loss of her virginity or if the guy turns out to be unfaithful or "not interested in a relationship", she may feel cheap or dirty (there are guys out there who think that having sex with a virgin is a novelty). If the sex is part of a lasting relationship and the male shows care and tenderness during and afterwards, she will probably remember it as a good experience.
Mine was not a good experience. I remember my first thought was that the guy was really pushy. I remember thinking, "you know, if I didn't want this too, I don't know if he would take no for an answer or get off me." Afterwards, he rolled over and said that he didn't like people touching him after sex. I thought that was odd, but I didn't know any better at the time. At the time I was crazy about him, but his actions made me worry if he thought I was easy or cheap. He dumped me within two weeks, and looking back now (many years, great sex, and a wonderful husband later) I see what a jerk he was.
2006-12-08 20:08:47 · answer #1 · answered by slaughter114 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the girl really.
For some, losing their virginity is built up to be a spectacular moment, and reality doesn't always meet the expectation. In their minds, it's supposed to be a 'special event' and their fist time may or may not live up to that perception.
For others, virginity is one of those things in the realms of "when it's time to go, it's time to go". They wonder afterwards what all the fuss was about, and move on with their lives.
As a guy, my personal experience was a case of "I wouldn't change the 'when' (I was 14), but the 'who' could have been chosen better". Then again, I didn't place a huge emphasis on the whole "losing my virginity"...
2006-12-08 20:15:05 · answer #2 · answered by keltarr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not "loose," it's lose.
I lost my virginity after high school. I was 17, and he was my first boyfriend. There wasn't any kind of special feeling attached to the experience. My parents had gone out of town and it just seemed like a convenient time to do it without having to rush or hide somewhere. I do remember being more focused on the fact that I was actually having sex than on whether it felt good or was romantic. I also remember wishing afterward that I'd waited (I think that a lot of women feel that way), and that it was nothing like what I thought it would feel like. That seems to translate into how I feel most of the time after sex... "I could have had a V8."
2006-12-08 20:43:13 · answer #3 · answered by Ann 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I accept as true with you, while a guy loses his virginity its much less of a deal in society than while a woman does. Unfortunatly, that is because of the better in all likelihood hood that ladies can get pregnant so human beings might oftentimes choose women to maintain their virginity. I do accept as true with you however I choose it may well be an equivalent rigidity/effect for the two
2016-10-18 00:31:52 · answer #4 · answered by kigar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a girl has been taught to cherish her virginity and gives in to a boy who just uses her and moves on she can feel very hurt.
2006-12-08 19:57:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was really in love so I wasn't loosing it I was giving it away. And I am still really in love with the same man. It was fantastic!
2006-12-08 19:54:51 · answer #6 · answered by aimeeme_g 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ahhh my brother from another mother. Girls get clinging, emotional, paranoid, and psychotic, after you take their virginity. It is hell to get out of that relationship with her after you do that.
2006-12-08 20:00:06 · answer #7 · answered by jkeiser80 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seems like you had sex with your virgin GF & you like her very much. it belongs to her belives. if she is ok with that then she will have no problem . but if it`s against her belives the she will have a perion of depression. take her to a psychiatrist for advise
2006-12-08 19:57:27 · answer #8 · answered by M*K*H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u loose it by mistake u'll feel bad and if u loose it willingly then u'll feel happy.
2006-12-08 19:53:27 · answer #9 · answered by Hally berry 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its diffrent on every girl and every situation! they are ALOT of factors to consider.
2006-12-08 19:53:29 · answer #10 · answered by LIZARD 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋