I really like my girlfriend but she's a little overweight. I'm trying to let it go but can't?

Question

Shes exactly what ive been looking for, but im used to a much small frame. I know its superficial but i, just cant get over it. What should i do?

Answer 1

don't dwell on it. what you can do though, is get her into an active lifestyle. take her for hikes or bike rides. she'll shed some weight and you'll have fun together

Answer 2

Realize that it it harder to find a good person than it is a good body. Realize that many women gain weight with age. Weight is often a temporary thing. If you care about being with a good person then keep her. If you just want a body then leave her to find someone better than you who loves her for who she is.

Some nice anwers from the men here. Perhaps one of them would love your girlfriend more than you. You said she is exactly what you are looking for then perhaps she has good qualities that other men would like.

Let her go and do not waste her time. Some day some woman will dump you because your are impotent or lose your hair Karma is not fun.

Answer 3

Maybe she is slightly depressed. Sometimes things don't work, no matter how hard you try. If you love her you need to tell it how it is, but still gently. She needs to know you care about her health as well as her appearance. She might care, but is finding it difficult to put thoughts into action. She need you to encourage her, not to put her down. Every time she is successful, point it out. Make her feel special.

Answer 4

If you really liked your girlfriend, you would overlook her weight. What exactly is overweight to you? I have found with some people if the girl isn't close to anorexic, then she is fat. If you can't get around your girlfriends weight, then you need to let her go and find some skinny, scrawny thing that is not your "fat" girlfriend. You don't deserve her. Your so shallow.

Answer 5

If you really cared for her, then her weight wouldn't be an issue for you. If it's a problem for you then maybe you should let her go. I'm sure there's someone who could be happy with her just the way she is. The thing about love or having feelings for someone is you accept them for who they are, inside and out. You should never expect to change someone. Hopefully you can see what a great person she is and love her for it.

Answer 6

When someone loves and cares for another person then; they should love and care for them for who they are not how small they are. If this is a problem for you then maybe you need to let her go. But she may surprise you and decide to loose the extra weight. Maybe you should tell her how you feel and she how she handles it. She may try to loose the weight but she may dump you. Then again she may loose the weight and then dump you.

Answer 7

Weight issue. wow, how silly!!

well, prince charming, i am sure that your poopy smells like roses. Because the stuff you are spewing now is unadulterated rubbish.

This is the same silly attitude that has young girls starving and having eating disorders to be so skinny. It causes low self esteem and long term health issues.

Nough said!!

Answer 8

Well, just focus on something good about her. Look at her smile; is it beautiful? So what if she's a little overweight. If you really care about her, weight won't matter.

Answer 9

You're right, that is being superficial. Whatever you do, don't tell her she needs to lose weight. Tell her you're thinking of walking or jogging for exercise, and see if she'd like to join you. If she doesn't, don't make her feel bad about it.

Answer 10

Well i think if you realy love her, you don't have to bordered by her outer appearance, you have to look at the inner person which you reallly love, 4get about the outer person you r seeing, love the inner person, but If you can't get over it then you like her for the wrong reasons.