If someone breaks up with you after 8 months with no warning? and talked of marriage before? was he scared?

Question

I dated a man for 8 months, I thought things were going very well, we talked about a future together all the time. And then out of the blue he broke up with me. Do you think he got scared? Or just a bad person and was feeding me a line for all that time? We both have children, he talked about wanting them to bond, we talked about where we would live, everything. It's very odd. We didn't fight, no issues. Very confusing? and I didn't pursue why when he said he felt we shouldn't see each other anymore because to me it was weak. Do you think he's just immature and scared of the future, so he bailed? He's 37..

Answer 1

Happened to me and it turns out he went back to his ex, but wouldn't tell me.

Answer 2

Typical, of course it is the mans fault! He is immature, he was lying, he was just stringing me along. Enough.

In relationships it takes those involved to make it work, or not work. simple isn't it!

After 8 months, something happened that changed the inter relational dynamics. Most times it is simple thing that has been happening for a while, and although you may claim that there were "no issues". I can tell you, men like comfort. Men will tolerate a lot to maintain the status quo. But, also remember men (even though they don't talk about it much) weigh the long term people in a relationship and a factor is comfort. I maybe something that reminded him of a bad thing from a previous relationship, or one of many many factors that tipped the scales. But, it could be that after getting to know what you wanted and what he wanted it would not "mix" right.

No drawing a conclusion that he is weak and scared of the future is the reason that he bailed, that is well........ sad. But, from the bit of narrative you have written, it is understandable that you would say that.

It take all involved to make a relationship, they come as they are, don't expect people to change for love, you have to love what is there. Control is not love.

Answer 3

Could be a lot of things no one knows but him. But sometimes people talk during the 'heat of the moment' but later regret what they may have said. It doesn't mean he was a bad guy...it's not like you said he was cheating on you or anything. He broke up with you and if you wanted to know what his reasons were then you should have asked him at the time.

Answer 4

i donot think he is scared!! there is nothing to get scared off for a 39 yrs old .....

He might be seeing someone else....

you can just ask him why he broke up.. i guess he owe you that much..... but donot confront and keep your cool......

about you guys talking of future together n all .. well i guess you must have realized that by now that just talking doesnot mean anything much until n unless everything is put into act.....

Answer 5

He might be, or it could be that he isnt ready, or doesnt feel like he can anymore. I wouldnt know if someone would just leave you like that after a while and a relationship like yours. Have you tried telling him why? He might have left you because of his own personal reasons, or trying not to hurt you in someway. You should have a chat with him, and ask questions, so you wouldnt be so confused. Maybe it could be he IS afraid.

Answer 6

I'd say just a bad person and was feeding you a line for all that time.
A 37 year old man with kids isn't "scared"- maybe he was still married or something weird.

Answer 7

Unless his wife passed away, it sounds like he's getting back together with his ex.

My parents never got divorced (they preferred to inflict their missery on us until we were all 18) but many of my friends went through stuff like you just described when their parents attempted to reconcile after their divorce.

Answer 8

Im sorry

Answer 9

he might of gotten scared