I work with this guy and he asked me to hang out. Well I thought hanging out was just that, hanging out. Well we went to a movie during the day (friendly date right?) and the next night he left me a note and roses at my door. By this time I had only known him 2 weeks. He said he wanted to be in a relationship and that I was beautiful and he thought I would never go out with him. I told him that he was moving too fast and that I appreciated his friendship and just wanted to be friends with him. Someone found out and told him that I wasn't interested in him. He keeps saying he wants to buy me stuff and asks me out all the time, after I have told him I just want to be friends. He gets really jealous if I talk to other guys and gets really red in the face. He would come and sit at my work and my co-workers would comment on how he would just stare, and my boss even had to talk to him and told me that he stares all the time and can't let me concentrate on my job.
2006-12-08 18:04:21 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't want to hurt his feelings, but I do not want to even hang out with him as friends because he makes me feel uneasy and uncomfortable. What makes me mad is my other manager who knows about our situation gets him to walk me out when we close every night! I have to work with him so I don't know how I can avoid him and I don't want to change jobs..what should I do? He is always "joking" around but I don't find him funny, but people say that he may think I like him because I always smile and I am always friendly to everyone. I have beome more distant with him since I want to get my point across. What should I do and why do I attract guys like this that tend to be clingy/stalkerish?
2006-12-08 18:06:25 · update #1
Sorry so long and thank you for your advice and help! :) God bless!
2006-12-08 18:08:45 · update #2
Get a restraining order, fast! Yes, he is creepy!
Please stop worrying about hurting his feelings and worry about yourself.
2006-12-08 18:07:01 · answer #1 · answered by bestfriendthemom 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, he's definately creepy. I've never heard of a more perfect explanation of an insecure guy! STAY AWAY! I can already tell that this guy lives a boring life...all he does is look at you, buy you gifts, and talk about you. you don't want anything to do with him! Being a friend w/ him is only teasing him. I'm actually laughing my *** off at what a loser he is. Get away!! The sooner, the better - before things get worse. He's a stalker in the making.
2006-12-09 02:08:43 · answer #2 · answered by Stewie Loves You 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Oops. Sounds like a stalker in training. Seriously. Do some research. From what I've heard, total avoidance is best. Don't be nice, don't be mean, just avoid.
If he starts acting out worse or getting threatening, it's totally not fair, but you may need to find another job.
2006-12-09 02:06:40 · answer #3 · answered by John L 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Guys are notorious for not getting the point. A lot of guys think if you're nice to them that you like them. You just have to be firm on the fact that you guys are not an item and don't do anything that will make him think he's got a chance (definitely don't let him buy you anything).
2006-12-09 02:09:48 · answer #4 · answered by PS 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you're not crazy, that is definetly creepy. That man has problems, and your boss is a
d!kchead for making the issue worst. you should tell your boss how uncomfortable you are with him for real cuz thats not cool at all. best thing for you to do is to be a b!tcht to that guy. stop smiling around him cuz that makes him think he has a chance. dont be afraid to completely shut the creep down, he needs that
2006-12-09 02:11:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yet another reason why its not good to date somebody you work with. Yeah, thats creepy. He's way to pushy. If I were you I'd avoid that guy like the plague.
2006-12-09 02:09:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You haven't had sex with him have you?
If all you have done with him is simply go to a day movie, then yes it is a bit on the weird side.
Trying telling him that you are sorry if you hurt his feelings but you are able only to be friends with him.
2006-12-09 02:08:32 · answer #7 · answered by JB 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Very creepy. Distance yourself from him and don't accept gifts. He'll eventually get the picture. If you allow things to progress, they'll only get worse.
2006-12-09 02:07:02 · answer #8 · answered by Elaine 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would quit that job immediately. HIs behaivior is dangerous. He is not right mentally. You are in danger from a creep.
And your manager is wrong. You need to tell him you are trying to avoid this guy and to stop having him walk you out.
2006-12-09 02:09:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
You're just gonna have to hurt his feelings, he sounds weird. Ditch him now before he really gets too clingy.
2006-12-09 03:38:33 · answer #10 · answered by cub6ib9 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋