I have a dillemma, i've fallen for this girl and have not been able to tear away from her for over a year. Even after she broke my heart i still am madly in love with her. She is constantly hanging around other guys but in a friend way (Tomboy). But each of her "friends" is trying to get into her pants, she just got out of a relationship and wants to wait until after christmas before entering another. We speak on the phone every night and often have phone sex, but i dont know if that means anything, she constantly says she wants to be with me and that she loves me, but is flirty with other guys, not sure if i should ask her out after christmas or just stay friends. PLEASE HELP!!
-confused
2006-12-08 18:02:09 · 11 answers · asked by Tony D 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ok, good advice, but the thing is, she hangs with these guys, cuz they are her only friends, she has no girlfriends, she's hung arounf guys all her life, her dad is abusive anf her mother is distant. ive always been her very close firend but lately things have seemed to accelerate now that she is single, she has already dated a few of them after they were friends for a week, and im afraid the same thing will happen to us, friends become lovers and then their whole relationship is destroyed, but for over a year ive been there for her and i feel what we have is stronger than what everyone else has with her.
2006-12-08 18:19:13 · update #1
Maybe she is flirty with these guys to make you jealous.Or maybe they are good friends and she doesn't even know she is being flirty.Its obvious she is really into you from what I have read.If you love her you should give her the time she wants.If she says she wants to be with you,she wants to be with you.I hope everything works out for you and best of luck!
Another thing just be careful, ive done the friends thing. and if its the right person and done carefully it can come out ok even when things dont work out. But it can really ruin things and ruin them good if its not the right person.You know this girl very well and you'll know for yourself if it's worth it or not.Trust in yourself!! And again Good Luck
I hope my advice will help you :D
2006-12-08 18:08:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This girl has a major problem with being co-dependent. Why would you want to be with someone like that. She flirts and hang's out with guys like she does because she needs the attention. She's probably already been with all of them, weather you want to believe it or not. She's not worth it. Go find find someone that wants to be with just you and not everyone else. She's already broke your heart once but she's still around playing head games with you. Get rid of her.
2006-12-08 18:13:24 · answer #2 · answered by Countrygirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, both of you are right. she is entitled to her friends, though they may or may not want to sleep with her.... and you are entitled to be worried & want her to stop hanging out with these guys...
there is nothing wrong with having lots of guy friends. girls can be VERY petty- especially in the teenage years. guys are less petty & don't hold grudges against their female friends the way girls do.
at the same time, some girls do thrive upon attention-- and guys give girls more special attention in many cases. she might be super insecure. she might like these guys, but that is something only she knows. yeah, she might go out with you and end up cheating... but she might be the most loyal girl around.
YOU JUST NEVER KNOW!!!
the question is... how much do you care for her & how much does she care for you? she could be someone really important that you will regret not dating!
is SHE trustworthy? that is VERY important. if you don't trust her, then no-- don't date her!
2006-12-08 18:04:33 · answer #3 · answered by christy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you two aren't officially an item, then she is entitled to go out with other guys, (or flirt with other guys).
Therefore, if you really want her to be yours and yours truly, then you got to ask her out. The timing is up to you.
If after you ask her out and she says yes, then still continues to flirt, then you got to let her know this sort of thing bothers you and take it from there.
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from your extra info, it seems she is a person who needs to be assured that she is loved and cared for. It's good that you have a strong friendship base to build upon. Just because it didn't work out for her with the other guys doesn't mean it won't work for you two. But be aware that she is somewhat fragile, and needs to be reassured that you love and care about her very much and won't hurt her like what happened when she was growing up. Good luck!
2006-12-08 18:07:00 · answer #4 · answered by Lilliana 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, I understand you're confused. But not as much as she is. This is something you want to avoid. She sounds very insecure and needs a lot of attention. Your attention will never be enough for her.
2006-12-08 18:04:57 · answer #5 · answered by John L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really truely like her. tell her- "if you truely like me like i truely like you then you would be willing not to hang around those other guys". If she stops you know she likes you, if she doesn't you know she isn't interested in more than the sexual part of dating. If that happens find another girl that will be devoted to you and only you. (atleast when she is dating you that is)
Good Luck
2006-12-08 18:11:50 · answer #6 · answered by newsies62 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had that, and I was never more miserable. Who wants someone they always have to watch? Let her get a flirt- who's probably flirting with other girls too- then she'll get hers.
2006-12-08 18:06:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already know what kinda person she is. If you trust her go for it. If you have any reason not to then stay away.
2006-12-08 18:04:37 · answer #8 · answered by korines 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO not worth it. SHe clearly aint that into you if she lieks other dudes!
2006-12-08 18:04:50 · answer #9 · answered by kelly j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her out,ask her out!Or maybe she's just a tomboy...
2006-12-08 18:03:39 · answer #10 · answered by Shenlong The God Dragon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋