how do i call it quits???

Question

how do i break up with my boyfriend of two years who i live with and have a 6month old baby??? im miserable... i dont know what to do????

perhaps i didnt give enough details, my apologies. well the honest truth is we were only dating for a while when i got pregnant (while taking birth control & using condoms!) i couldnt go throught with an abortion so i kept the baby when i told my mother she kicked me out although i was working full time & going to college. at this point my bf wasnt ever happy that i was pregnant but said he would help me in any way & be responsible for the child. but we werent a young new couple we didnt even know eachother well we werent even that serious. so i moved in with him bcus i had no where to go. i never thought he was going to fall in love with me & marry me i thought it was temp. but the pregnancy went on we grew closer the baby was born & there was talk of getting married & getting a house. but then the problems came. hes upset bcus he doesnt have a social life hes upset bcus the baby doesnt let us sleep hes upset bcus the financial responsibility is falling in him. we fight all the time!

Answer 1

Maybe you need space to clear your mind and think about what you really want.Like go on a holiday or something.If you dont wanna do that then sit him down and tell him the truth that your unhappy in the relationship.It will hurt him alot but it's better out sooner then later.I know breaking up is easier said then done but you do have to think about yourself and your baby.

I really hope it all works out for you and good luck

Answer 2

Oi. I wanted to say, "SAME HERE!" Everything IS the same... except the child.
This is not easy.
I broke up with my boyfriend of 2 years, as well. It was really hard. REALLY HARD. But I knew that it wasn't working and that I could be happier without him. So we parted.
It took some time, but if you need to do it, I suggest these things:
1. Get him out of the house ASAP! If he won't go, then you have to be strong and get yourself and the baby out. It won't seem like it now, but your gut and heart is telling you that this just isn't working, and if you follow through with it, you will thank yourself later.
2. Get a counselor. Not a shrink. You don't need drugs. EVER. Just go to someone who will be there to talk to. It helps. A LOT. You might even be able to qualify for free counseling since there is a small child involved. I would look into that. There are a lot of options for help as long as you're willing to ask!
3. Be in contact with all family and friends you trust. The more people you talk to that love you, the better.
Be glad you're not married. Even though there is a child involved, I think that this is infinately better than marriage... which involves a lot of money. This is just a matter of child support, custody, and visitation rights. Those are all heavy things, of course, but not impossible to work out.

I wish you the best of luck

Answer 3

Being miserable is one thing, don't be regretful as well.

when you leave, and I'm sure you'll find a way, don't even think about being in a relationship with someone else until you both have accepted that your not going to be together ever again.

That means years down the road when your child is 6,7,8,9,10 even younger and probably older and they're telling you they wish that you and "Daddy'' lived together, you don't feel the same way. Even for sentimental reasons.

If you are going to hold on (and you already know if you will) then don't bring another guy into the situation cause it's impossible to maintain a progressive relationship when your looking in the past.

j.blest

Answer 4

You could be experiencing post-partum depression. Don't fret; it will end, and it is natural after having a baby; you are not alone.
Are you in a bad situtation, or are you feeling low energy and a need to escape? If you are in an abusive situation, by all means, get out. If not, then know that this is a natural, temporary state, and you will not feel this way forever.
Tomorrow, take your baby out with you in the stroller. Go for a walk. Bring water for you to drink, and what the baby needs. Watch the sky. Watch the birds. Go to the park, and just walk, then sit, and enjoy the peace. Repeat as necessary, you will feel better soon. Take care.

Answer 5

Have you saved money so you can move out and support the baby? What were you thinking that you had a baby with him, that he would change and marry you? The child's welfare comes first. Do you have a place to go? Get in a safe place financially and securely before you break up. Breaking up is usually easy. Heck people get divorced every day. You say, "it's over this is not working out." I am moving out.

Answer 6

It doesn't sound like you are giving us all the information to really help you make a good decision especially with a child involved.
Perhaps an emotional distraction?
Or a relationship just not working any more?.
It sounds like you are really trying to do the right thing and think it through.

Answer 7

is it cause he is irresponsible about u and the baby?
if he is good to u , then i think ur going thru the well known post natal depression...many women suffer it, u need to see a doctor...u have been tied down with the baby and need a lil break from routine...it isnt the guy or the kid..its lack of support and encouragement from friends and family...sometimes its hormonal :) so dont jump the situation the feeling wont go away by separating...get someone , a successful parent to counsel u...
it'll work out :)

Answer 8

sit down with him and just tell him how you're feeling - don't plan what you're going to say cos it never works out like that! sometimes you just have to do it even though it makes you feel crap. i did it 5 years ago when i left my husband who i'd been with for 12 yrs and we had 2 children - but i'd decided i was too miserable and had been for too long - it was tough but we all got through it! remember you're important and life's too short to be miserable especially when you've got your baby too. Good luck!

Answer 9

If I were in your case...I would do what I think is right & would speak to him from the heart. That's all you really can do....Just think before you speak...Tell him staight up how you feel. It'll be tuff...but you know...you just gotta do it. As much as you hate hurting him... you have to do what's best. If you truly believe leaving him is the best solution well then go for it. Good luck girl

Answer 10

tell him about his bad points and then say that you have had enough of him and want a break-up. And about the baby, i think the more responsible of either the both of you should take custody of him/her.