Why? Today is the first "anniversary" of my brother's death-?

Question

My brother was mentally challenged---he died last year on this date. He died of an illness, infection, whatever that even the doctors can't explain. i'm trying real hard to maintain my religious beliefs but it's getting really hard--why would God take someone who was totally innocent--who just lived their life in happiness because they could. He worked every day, made friends with everyone he met, enjoyed the simple things in life. Then there are total buttheads who are nasty and wicked and live forever--why??

With total respect to LoopyWolf--I had been a devout Catholic--I've Hail Mary and Holy Mother'd myself into oblivion-my prayer book and rosary are worn out as am I!!

Answer 1

I totally empathize. I've asked this question a thousand times myself. Why do good people die, and useless pieces of sh*it get to live? It seems so unfair, but life isn't fair. Not by a longshot.

I lost a brother, and my closest friend in the world, to totally senseless deaths. The one thing this drives home is just how badly people need to feel there is a reason, or a purpose, or an almighty plan for why things happen.

There isn't. Things just happen. I don't believe in god. I think life is just luck and random chance, and you'll make yourself crazy with grief thinking otherwise.

Just treasure the good memories, and try and move forward and make the best of you own life that you can. This is the one thing you can do to honor the memories of the people you've lost.

I am so incredibly sorry for your loss. Please stay strong!

Answer 2

Think about it; you've just said that he was totally innocent, happy, friendly, and hardworking. Imagine now the total and indescribable joy he must be experiencing as he looks upon the face of his Savior. God called him. Ages before God created the universe, He knew that on that specific day (I'm not sure if you were referring to the 8th or the 9th) last year, He would call your brother to His side. It must be difficult to be happy when you miss your brother so much--and I can't pretend to be an expert on the subject of the death of a very close loved one--but take comfort in the fact that now your brother, whom God has been longing to bring to heaven since before the world began, is with God. Did your brother die on the 8th or the 9th? Either way, the feast of the Immaculate Conception is on the 8th. Try praying to Mary--ask her to help you understand why God called your brother when he did. Ask her to help you find comfort in her Son. Ask your brother to pray for you, to help you be happy for him. You should not be sad; your brother is in a state beyond bliss right now and he is waiting for the day when God will call you too. Imagine that reunion! :-)

Hope this helps, I really believe it's true.

EDIT: I just reread your question and saw that you'd mentioned he was mentally challenged. Well now you have something more to be grateful for. Your brother was held back in some way by a limitation of the mind; but now God has stripped that imperfection from him, and he is joyful at the new wonders that he could not experience before!

Answer 3

I am very sorry to hear about your brother, I lost my sister, who left two small children, 10 and 3 years old, and was such a beautiful, vivacious, warm and caring person. Then you look around and you see horrible people, abusing children, just wicked, and they live forever, as you said....you know, I guess you have to have faith that God knows what he is doing, and needs the angels(your brother, my sister and many innocents who have departed so soon)to be by his side, where they will not suffer in this world full of hate and greed where they don't belong.
I know it's hard to understand but they are much happier where they are now. There's no pain and sorrow. So, just remember your wonderful brother always, and know that he is in a better place.God Bless you and may your brother rest in peace in the glory of heaven.

Answer 4

U believe in God and u will not let that change. Would ur brother want that for u? Imagine, if he was so happy here on Earth, what he must be experiencing now that he is heaven? Surely in heaven he is completely well and free of any limitations. There is a saying: "Only the good die young". Maybe living "forever" isn't so great? I know u miss him and I am so sorry for ur loss.

Answer 5

I feel the same way. My father was a wonderful person--creative, friendly, always willing to help people (even those who didn't deserve it). He died 8 years ago, taken away from the wife with whom he actually had a GOOD relationship (unlike all other married couples, it seems) and his young children.

I finally realized although it is unjust, it happened for a reason. No one in my family would be where they are now if it hadn't been for that. Things happen when they're meant to happen.

I still miss him though. And I'm sorry about your brother.

Answer 6

People have been trying to answer this question forever. Good people die young thats for sure, I will never understand the Lords ways and I've given up trying to. Your brother came to Earth for a very short time to teach people the important things in life, maybe death is not such a bad thing, maybe the Earth itself is just one stopping point. Hopefully he is in a really great place looking out for you, and as long as you never forget about him he will never be that far.

Answer 7

After my cousin died, I felt the same way. He was just a fun loving guy, who helped anyone out...no matter what.

I think the death of the young and the "innocent" just goes to show that you don't always have as much time as you think you do. It makes you realize that you have to live like you won't see tomorrow, you have to take chances and you can't have any regrets.

Nobody lives forever...don't worry, the cold hearted people will eventually pay for their sins.

stay strong.

Answer 8

Because there is no god. Life just happens. There is no other explaination.

I am sorry for your loss. I lost my brother to an auto accident 9 yrs ago. Hardest thing that I have every been through. He was the first person that I was really close to that I have lost.

Answer 9

I am very sorry about your brother. Death is one of those things that is very hard to understand. It seems like a really bad trick sometimes. Do the best you can to get through it. There is no answer to your question.

Answer 10

I know what you mean. My grandmother died two days ago. She was only 67 and was always so cheerful. She had a heart attack but her heart was perfect and she wasn't even sick. I'm so sorry for your loss - I could never imagine losing my brother.
Death makes us stronger. Nobody's knows why God does what he does, but all we can do is know that our deceased love ones are with God now.