my parents don't give me any space. they search my room they pay people at my school to watch me and i can't go anywhere without them having to know every little detail. they also have my phone taped and what should i do to get them to back off a bit?...or like...a lot?
2006-12-08 17:16:52 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
rofl, i hope you are kidding. they pay people to watch you? while one of these people are watching you ask your friend to give you a pretend and sell you drugs (a bag of flour, or herbal tea), then when they confront you tell them you have to meet your friend candy at the strip club.
2006-12-08 17:21:51 · answer #1 · answered by Taze 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
move to outer space! Your parents will never change. You must learn to cope - evidently they have trust issues with you. Did you give them a reason? Trust is the one thing that is so very hard to win back once it's gone. Or they are paranoid for some reason - did something happen to cause them to be so suspicious? Otherwise, they love you and are (going overboard) protecting you. Eventually it will taper off though. Don't be secretive with them - be open - and soon they'll see they don't need to worry.
http://www.princetonol.com/family/columns/strictparents.html
2006-12-09 01:24:04 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must be someone important..are you the son of a politician or something lol? otherwise, there is no need for them to do such things. Tell them that you need intimacy. You don't need someone to follow you or anything. If it doesn't work, tell them that it pisses you off cuz you don't have lots of friends because of them...or say that you want to have a girlfriend soo they should back off a bit. But why are they doing this...doesn't make sense...
2006-12-09 01:24:28 · answer #3 · answered by LadyXSakura 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a broken trust between you and them.
Parents always want the best to their children.
Let them feel that they are as your friends "telling them your small secrets", even if it's bad. this will create confidence, and they will stop hunting you (this is hard for them too).
Make them feel that you are giving them some minutes to tell them about your behaviour at school or work, your ambition, your shortcoming.
Listen to their advices.
Be smart and gain their trust / such experience will help you in the future in every field of your life
2006-12-09 01:29:07 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DId you do something to make them think that they have to know your every move?...If your parents want to know right where you are in every waking minute of the day : And have someone telling them what you do at school too; Then there has got to be a reason for them not to trust you.......
So to get them off your back then yo have to find a way to make them trust you again.....
If you have not done anything for them to act this way then-DIVORCE THEM...
how old are you------take them to court-----Try to talk to them first...
And then just let them no that you are going to have to make a move if they do not stop SMOTHERING YOU....
2006-12-09 01:30:42 · answer #5 · answered by D Coy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you giving them reason not to trust you and to check up on you? Be honest with yourself. If you aren't, then approach them when they are in a good mood, over dinner or something, and explain that you feel that you are mature enough to be given a little more freedom. Back it up with details of how responsible you are. If an honest evaluation of yourself yields behaviors that may cause them to be concerned or suspicious, then address those first.
2006-12-09 01:20:30 · answer #6 · answered by Snoopy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude, your parents only want the best for you. and with all the garbage on the news....what do you expect? sorry, your parents will not just go away....and it sounds like you have a serious trust issue here...trust goes both ways...and if you have lost it....only time and trust will help. one little lie or betrayal will go a very long way.....furthermore, if you want them off your back? ? ? tell them every detail....after so many ....they should quit asking....trust me too many details...can get just too much.....* it is their right to know, its they're job to raise you right, and if you didn't mess up and one of your friends did....they are just making sure that you don't mess up......
2006-12-09 01:25:45 · answer #7 · answered by tgdjm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh my, well then you should rebel! Make them a deal some how, like get better grades to have some free space. Get angry at them and tell them that you are tired of being over protected. Say you know your parents care about you because they love you ( they love that ) but you are getting older and you feel like your in a prison. Maybe get worse grades for like a bit if that may work and tell them that you wont do better till they loosen up. But dont do it if your in highschool that will miss your transcript up. goodluck.
2006-12-09 01:20:54 · answer #8 · answered by CiNdiEe 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ask your parents to give you a responsibility such as walking the dog twice a day and if you do that continuously hopefully your parents will notice and if they dont, ask them about it and say "mom, dad, i was thinking since im older and have matured alot, i was wondering if you could give me a little space", and if they still dont do anything try ignoring them a little, kinda like being in neutral, and if they still dont do anything...sorry im outta ideas kid
2006-12-09 01:20:25 · answer #9 · answered by VOLLEYBALLA913 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seems really drastic, have you given them a reason to be this distrustful? You don't say how old you are, but believe it or not parents don't do these things because they hate you, they do them because they love you. Its not easy being a parent either, the same as it's not easy being a kid. Talk to them, help them to build up confidence in you.
hope things work out
2006-12-09 01:21:14 · answer #10 · answered by bobbie v 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you may be a bit paranoid. I dont believe any parent would go to such lengths to keep tabs on their child. If you phone is 'taped', how on earth are you able to use it? ;(
2006-12-09 01:25:55 · answer #11 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋