My parents are always arguing and I don't know why.My real father walked out on us a while back and it has been hard for me to trust anyone; let alone a man.When my stepdad came along of course I was skeptical.All they do is argue.Sometimes they don't speak for months at a time and I'm afraid they'll split up and yet another man will end up walking out of my life.The problem is, they don't know how much their arguing bothers and upsets me.Not only can I not get close to anyone but I am always so afraid that everyone I get close to is going to walk out of my life.My new boyfriend can't even get the love he deserves because I'm scared he's going to walk our of my life just like everyman before him has done.I have been doubting our relationship because lately it seems like my parents can never get along.I really want to love him and be with him, but for some reason something in the back of mine is telling me not to. What do I do, and do you think I could ever learn to love him?
2006-12-08 17:01:46 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
That's a tough one. I would suggest you write a letter saying everything you want to say. Your fears, concerns, how this is affecting you and what you need from them as parents. Call a family meeting and ask the both of them to simply listen to you. Read your letter with no interruptions. Tell then this is not up for debate because these are your feelings and they are valid. The only rule for a family meeting is everyone gets to talk, everyone listens and no YELLING! Good luck Sweetheart.
2006-12-08 17:19:34 · answer #1 · answered by Smoochie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friend, don't look to a human to fulfil the longing in your heart for an earthly father or anywhere else for that matter. Just give your heart and life to Jesus Christ because He NEVER FAILS and NEVER LEAVES OR FORSAKES YOU. Not even if the world ends. Not even when you die. He will keep you in perfect peace if your mind is stayed on Him no matter what the circumstances are you are going through. I'm so sorry for the pain you are experiencing but truly Jesus is the answer and He'll never walk out on you. Never! He'll love you always if you'll just let Him into your heart. That's where you'll find true peace, love and joy.
2006-12-09 01:25:43 · answer #2 · answered by Lovin' Mary's Lamb 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Seeems like ur mother is at fault.
But it doesnt matter.
Dont imagine that u can help. U cannot.
Its only for a few years more & then u have no longer be in the house to bear it.
Of course when u love, u put urself in a vunerable position, u also give the other person the option to betray u but if he really loves u then he will come back.
Seems like ur mother character is rubbing off on u. Dont let it. Each person is different and let them 1st betray u till u judge him.
People leave eachother if one :
- Critisise them.
- Nag them.
- Dont respect their ego.
- Sexual incompatiblity.
2006-12-11 04:08:12 · answer #3 · answered by jack 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The thing i would do is sit down and talk to your mom and step dad. let them know how you feel. They might not know just how much it is bothering you. As far as your new bf goes when you meet the right one you will show him all the love he needs, sure you might be scared but you are still young and there is alot of life left to live. Find someone to talk to and who can maybe sit down with your parents and talk to all of you together.
2006-12-09 01:11:10 · answer #4 · answered by Will 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to find a counselor to talk to. See if a conselor at school can help you or refer you to someone who can. You might also confide in a minister or priest.
Best Wishes,
Sue
2006-12-09 01:03:59 · answer #5 · answered by newbiegranny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know my parents argue and they divorced and my dad drinks so much and yells and (hits us sometimes) we would rather live at our moms.... I have gone to counslers and they all told my dad what i said.... So just stick it out i know u will get through it i know i am right now
2006-12-09 01:09:50 · answer #6 · answered by *♥* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋