There's this guy named Mike who I've been friends with for a little while...we hang out in large groups on the weekends and I'm on his intramural basketball team (I'm in college, by the way). I always sort of had some feelings for Mike, but never pursued anything with him. But last weekend, he and his roommates threw me a birthday party in their apartment. After awhile, everyone left to go to a different party, but I stayed and we ended up hooking up. We didn't have sex or do oral, but we still went further than I would've gone if I had been sober. I told him that I used to like him and asked him what he wanted this to be, and he said "I prefer it just be a hookup," and I agreed, but he also said that we should do it again sometime. I've seen him everyday since then, and he hasn't been awkward or weird, and he's been really friendly and somewhat flirty, but I don't know what to think. I'm fine with us just hooking up, but he doesn't look at me the same way that he used to.
2006-12-08 16:49:55 · 6 answers · asked by bosox.girl23 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know he just wants it to be a hookup, and that’s fine. But yesterday at our game, he seemed more interested in my best friend than he did in me. But at the same time, that’s how I always felt—that he wanted her and didn’t find me attractive at all. And I don’t think he would hook up with me unless he thought I was attractive…Do you think he would want to hook up again? And even more, would he have hooked up with me if he didn’t find me attractive?
Please…serious answers only. Thanks for your time.
2006-12-08 16:50:13 · update #1
thats kinda tough..
of course he wouldnt look at you the same exact way.. its cause you guys hooked up. even if its just a hook up everyone looks at it a different way. forget your best friend for right now, but you're just kinda like "omg does he like my best friend and not me" b/c u guys hooked up and u wanted it to be something more. maybe hook up again and see if you really feel anything different..and tell him.
hope this somehow helps.
goodluck.
2006-12-08 16:56:34 · answer #1 · answered by tortl :) 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're looking at the wrong guy for a relationship. It seems like when you say "hook-up," it sounds like casual sex or just to satisfy each other physically and nothing more. He doesn't seem interested in you at all by what you've explained, because you've already told him that you liked him. He knows that he can get you whenever he wants to now, so, be wary that he will just use you to satisfy himself when he has the urge to be with a woman. Nothing will become of this relationship. If he's a true friend, he would never do this to you. Personally, I can never imagine doing this to any of my female friends. It's absurdly cruel. You deserve so much more. Good Luck...
2006-12-09 01:00:28 · answer #2 · answered by haithere_us 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well it sounds like if you care this much what he thinks then you may have some feelings for him, but you don't want to admit that to yourself because he has made it clear it doesn't want anything more...my advice to you is don't keep randomly hooking up with him I know you think you don't care and that you don't want more, but i think inside you might and your just to scared to admit it to yourself and I'm pretty sure that if he started hooking up with your best friend it would hurt you...so my advice is just stay friends with him you deserve better than that and i can almost guarantee if you keep going this way it probably wont end up good! but I wish you the best of luck!
by the way I am a girl in college as well and Ive seen this situation so many times..do what you want to do just be careful and keep your best interest in mind!
2006-12-09 00:58:50 · answer #3 · answered by thereis 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe that he finds you attractive. I also believe that he isn't interested in a relationship with you beyond "hook ups" or even "booty calls" at some point. He probably genuinely likes you and enjoys your company and if you're cool with the casual thing he's into it. I don't see anything more than that based on what you wrote.
2006-12-09 00:58:22 · answer #4 · answered by Jewelhunter 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No I don't think he would hook back up with you if he thought you were attractive because he doesn't seem like that kind of guy.
2006-12-09 00:54:42 · answer #5 · answered by Dude Man 29 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
when ppl hook-up, its not a matter of attraction. its to just hook-up. so if you don't want to get ur feelings hurt then don't hook up.
2006-12-09 00:53:14 · answer #6 · answered by 2dogs 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋