he cheated and when i found out i put him out the house. i dated someone else and he went to live with the person he cheated on me with. come to find out they had nothing in common and he comes back to me telling me that he is sorry for what he done and he was stupied and he wants me back. this is not the only time he has cheated on me. i just forgave him and never bought it up again. he can't keep a job either. he just got another job and im afraid he is gonna loos this one as well. i love him and i feel he loves me to but i dont think i should forgive and forget him this time. what do you think.
2006-12-08 16:45:15 · 15 answers · asked by shon 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If I was you I would stay away from him. Do you think that if he truly loved you he would treat you like this? You deserve so much better than a cheating bf. You have already given him another chance and he messed it up again...its really not worth it to get back together because if hes done it twice he will probably do it again. Its his own fault for losing you and he has to deal with it. Don't get back together! Find another guy that is willing to support you emotionally and financially, this guy obviously doesn't. There are plenty of good guys out there and when you find one you will see the difference and realize your better off without a cheater.
Stay strong and good luck!
2006-12-08 16:54:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a legal professional and do the entire "at the back of the scenes" paintings to get divorced. Before you're making the statement, permit your children keep together with your mother and father or with a pal. Once you're making the statement, have anyone with you always. Do no longer be by myself with this man. You too can name your nearby police division at the day you progress out your stuff or his stuff (whoever is getting the apartment) and the police will do a stand-through even as ou maintain industry. They would possibly cost for this carrier whether it is prolonged period of time. Point is, if you announce you're getting divorced, don't permit him be by myself with you and have already got your children staying in other places. Preferably, you progress the children while he's at paintings. When he will get house, you'll have police on standby and inform him you're getting a divorce. He will on no account be ready to peer or speak to you by myself once more, until he suggests up on you afterwords, wherein then you definately get a restraining order towards him. THIS IS THE BEST ADVICE I CAN GIVE YOU, TAKE MY ADVICE AND YOU CAN START LIVING YOUR LIFE FOR THE FIRST TIME IN A LONG TIME.
2016-09-03 09:53:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, he's coming back BECAUSE they didn't work out. You are a safety net.
Second, maybe you need to figure out what love is yourself.
Just because your s/o jumped into something doesn't mean you should have.
Take some time, get over him. Do not drag anybody (e.g. a new boyfriend) into your emotionally unstable life until you are dead certain that you have closure with everyone in your past.
btw...I think you know more than your letting on about what the right thing to do is. You don't need to ask anyone this question...all you need to do is listen to yourself (follow YOUR intuition)
Hope this helps clarify your predicament for you.
j.blest
2006-12-08 17:03:51 · answer #3 · answered by J S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, he cheated on you. That's a huge major no-no, or at least a lightning-like warning sign. And second off, it's not even the FIRST time he cheated on you- if he truly loves you, why is it that he can't love ONLY you? Third off, he can't keep a job, or his promises, or his relationship- what part of him makes him so trustworthy to you? How do you know that in ten years, when you have a kid, he's not going to cheat and leave you? Or just walk up and leave? You can't trust this man- at all. Love or no love, there's just no right to this relationship. Stay clear of this man, he's harmful to himself, to you, and everyone around him.
2006-12-08 16:50:52 · answer #4 · answered by cecikuna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would let him go.
He sounds like he is not honest, has no respect for you and is definitely not loyal.
He will keep cheating on you as long as he knows you will keep taking him back (why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?)
You don't love him unless you believe you deserve to be used and abused.
You are in love with the IDEA of being in love.
Break up with him for good...you deserve better and there are better people in the world to be with than that loser.
2006-12-08 16:51:52 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi i think being a guy to he needs to do some soul searching before he ask for you back your right in saying if we are back togher how can i find the tust again and the love than i need. really thats the main thing here all then right things u want need have been hurt so meany times allreddy by him before he could ever really love again he neeeds to get hes own head right first so all hes time needs care and love gos to only one lady and he can slowly start to earn it from you thats what u need the most from him not really think about it a guy loves hes lady should be hes one and only and not look to others or shere hes needs with other ladys but only hes one love you.
2006-12-08 16:58:29 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do NOT let him back in. He wants you back because his other thing didn't work out??? That's crazy. You are his safety net. But he will always be interested in others. He is either crazy about you or not. Obviously he isn't and you deserve better. Don't ruin your short, short life by doing this to yourself. Think about the big picture and what's best for you. This is not it. And finally, he is obviously not helping your self-esteem. He knows he can walk all over you. STOP THAT!
2006-12-08 16:52:01 · answer #7 · answered by JennyJo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I become amazed at all the long "here's how awful my mate is" questions that are so obvious that there's no good reason to stick it out with them, and they end "However, I love him, what do you think?"
If you can't read what you wrote and figure out for yourself he's useless and you don't need to be around him, you get what you deserve.
2006-12-08 16:52:40 · answer #8 · answered by You'll Never Outfox the Fox 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can forgive him and not go back to that garbage! He sounds like someone that will always be looking- forget him and move on-take care-D
2006-12-08 16:50:54 · answer #9 · answered by Debby B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's the only time YOU KNOW OF that he cheated on you.
he comes running back to you after leaving you, but it didn't pan out? don't you deserve better?
come on, girl. have some self respect.
2006-12-08 16:48:53 · answer #10 · answered by inactive 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋