it still hurts. is the first the worst. is it just the holidays or the same season that she gave up that is making me sad? you can make fun of me if you want. it doesnt matter of you do
2006-12-08 16:15:08 · 11 answers · asked by Joe 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's OK if you still think about this person but it doesn't have to hurt and it won't always hurt like it does now.
You will move on, you just need to give yourself some time as it sounds like you are still grieving.
If it's your first serious relationship then you have probably been experiencing certain emotions for the first time in your life too and you are still learning to cope with those emotions.
You may be in agony, possibly getting desperate, wondering when these feelings will subside.
It's up to you, you will decide when you are finished grieving and when it is time to let go.
It may not seem like it now but it is a good experience because you are growing as a person and when you emerge from the other side you will be stronger, wiser and more mature.
All the best.
2006-12-08 16:33:07 · answer #1 · answered by Spandito 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just have to move on Man, and the feelings of hurt will go away eventually, but that is up to you, you have to decide that she wasn't right for you and did you a favour. A loving relationship takes to people, and despite how strongly you feel about someone if they don't feel the same about you, then there is no validity to the relationship in the first place. You know what is so good about beating your head against a brick wall? It feels so good when you stop.
2006-12-08 16:19:50 · answer #2 · answered by Crowfeather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You loved her. The purest emotion this side of hate.
You will never get over her. You will never stop loving her. All you can do is make room in your heart for a girl that won't break your heart, that will love you forever and, that will make you smile and happy to be alive again.
Don't make the mistake of comparing your feelings for that girl with the feelings you have for the girls you will meet from here on out. you will never feel for another girl the way you felt for that first girl. We all have our firsts. \\\
Good luck, it's hard. But, you will love again, and soon, because the most attractive man on earth is one that has been smitten by love. It is girl bait.
You are so lucky to be you. I am 50, I know.
2006-12-08 16:22:13 · answer #3 · answered by lili gee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. You really need to let it go and move on. For YOU! What happens if you run into her Christmas shopping? What if she's moved on, and you're pathetic? It's not attractive. Don't let it happen. Life is short. Get one. Find anything that makes you feel good. I just found Karate, Okinawa style, is so awesome. Something you can share...with someone who likes the same things.
2006-12-08 16:24:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
because you still like her or just trying to get over it because what happen in the past really meat something to you that you regreted, and no im not making fun of you and hope you find another girl who is more faithful to you.
2006-12-08 16:19:21 · answer #5 · answered by Thrills 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah it is impossible to forget the first love.no matter if u get better then her but still there will comparitive complex.but i will tell u to forget her and look for someone better then coz sometimes change is good for life... goodluck
2006-12-08 16:23:54 · answer #6 · answered by coolarron 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if your first relationship was pretty long it will be hard to get over. when you get deeply attatched with someone who is also your first it can be hard. do you guys still talk? maybe you should tell her how you feel and she might feel the same.
you wont know if you dont ask.
2006-12-08 16:19:46 · answer #7 · answered by the boss [amj] 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea, the first is the worst and something you'll never forget even after dating again and dumping or gettin dumped, you'll always go back and think about the first one and be like....why?......just something you gotta deal with....stay up.
2006-12-08 16:17:57 · answer #8 · answered by Mr. Right 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I get it it's like you probably don't want her back just the feeling she gave you and I mean like happyness thats all.
2006-12-08 16:27:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You never forget your first girlfriend.
2006-12-08 16:18:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋