She told him 3 guys after 2 months into the relationship, then a year and and a half later.........10 days bf the wedding she told him 12 or more "but i cant remember".
He is 26, she is 27.
She lied to him and came clean right bf the wedding, she thought since she got him commited it was safe to tell him now, after he spent 35 grand of his own money on the wedding preperations and ring.
Was he wrong to be hurt and back out?
2006-12-08 15:45:09 · 5 answers · asked by Its me 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
by the way, he had 3 partners whom he was in relationships with.
2006-12-08 15:45:48 · update #1
Isnt it interesting how women think that lying doesn't matter
2006-12-08 16:05:11 · update #2
It was wrong of her to knowingly lie to him, and then to come clean just because she felt she "got him committed", but I am of the opinion that the number of partners should never be discussed with the current one.
The only thing a current partner needs to know is about suspected or known STD's, and this was not the case.
In the end though, it was probably not how many partners she had that upset him, it was probably the fact that she lied, and that is definetly not a good start to a marriage. Keep yourself out of all of this though, and do not offer your opinion, even if he asks for it. They might get back together, and you could end up looking like the bad guy.
2006-12-08 15:49:57 · answer #1 · answered by shaclare 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not. Honesty is always the best policy. But I must say that she at least told him the truth BEFORE the wedding so he had a chance to back out if he so desired. If my fiancee had told me these things just before the wedding I would have told her the wedding is off. If she told me the truth after the wedding I would tell her she cannot be trusted and since she lied about this she would lie about other things that would be important. Therefore I would immediately have the wedding annulled if possible and if not I would file for divorce. In the scenario you just mentioned there was deceit on her part and on his but hers was worse.
2006-12-08 23:51:33 · answer #2 · answered by Lewis P 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well it was ridiculous that she lied to him all this time, i knoe how he feels, similar thing happened to me, however i was just upset for a quite a while, it haunted me for a long time, but the girl i loved was still the same to me, i was just quite UPSET and disgusted that she lied and did that... after awhile i learned to look past that.. your friend just overreacted.. he didn't knoe wat to do, and was very hurt, yes it was wrong for him to do that, but it was also ridiculous that she pulled it out right before the wedding, holdin a lie that long just makes it worst, i mean com on... this girl he was bout to marry, was suppose to be true to him, even way before marriage, so how many other lies is she gonna pull after marriage? maybe she'll learn her mistake and beforgiven, he may regret doin this and take her bak
2006-12-08 23:56:03 · answer #3 · answered by Zi-Shu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
FIRST, OF ALL WHAT HAPPEN BEFORE HIM WAS HER BUSINESS. DONT YOU THINK. IT WAS NICE FOR HER TO COME CLEAN...AND IT WAS'NT HOW MANY PEOPLE SHE SLEPT WITH THAT MATTERS. HE DIDNT WANT TO GET MARRIED ANYWAY. AND WHAT DID SHE HAVE TO LOSE. HE WAS THE COWARD. HE HAD TO BLAME SOMEONE. SO WHY NOT HER....TELL HIM TO GROW UP AND BE A MAN... ONLY WHIMPS AND BOYS DO THINGS LIKE THAT.....
2006-12-08 23:53:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes he was wrong. Sex is not everything. Even if she had a slutty summer. Hell, most of us do even if we don't say anything about it. And you?
2006-12-08 23:50:07 · answer #5 · answered by Cookie 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋