My boyfriend is a very successful businessman, and my brother is a slacker. My boyfriend gave my brother a good job, let him move in with us, and paid $5000 for a lawyer to get my bro out a legal mess. My brother screwed up at work time and again, not showing up, etc., and my bf gave him chance after chance. Finally my bro was very disrespectful to my bf and was fired. Now my bro wants me to "choose" between him & my bf, says he's my family, my blood. My bf is like a husband to me and is wonderful to me, my bro creates havoc wherever he goes. My bro implied he wants me to end my relat. I have not spoken to him since this happened, a week ago. Do I have the right to be pissed at him? He hurt my bf & me after all we've tried to do for him.
2006-12-08 15:45:00 · 13 answers · asked by F 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Your brother sounds like a younger brother who has a lot of growing up to do!
Stay with your boyfriend, and don't make a big fuss over it... keep not talking to your brother, don't give in! Having you choose between them is ridiculous, you love your brother but this isn't important enough to be the cause of a break up.
Your boyfriend was gracious enough to give him a chance, he screwed it, so let him leave and sort it out on his own!
2006-12-08 16:15:47 · answer #1 · answered by SalesGirl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know this would be a very hard discussion to make, you know I think since you and your bf did what you all did for him and then he just more or less blew it off, I think what I would do is do what is called tough love on him. It will be hard to do this, but you know what, he had no respect for you as his sister to do what he done. He needs to learn a little lesson in life. You are doing the right thing. He had it made in the shade, so now let him learn what life is really all about on his own.
2006-12-08 18:12:56 · answer #2 · answered by SapphireB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you do have a right to be upset with your brother. Your bf looked out for him in so many ways and the way that he repays you guys is by screwing up! That is just wrong, and in no way should he have asked you to choose. Yes blood is thicker than water, but whats right is right and whats wrong is wrong. Your brother needs to understand that he can't blame nor be mad at you for the trouble that he has caused. It is time for him to be a man and get on his feet.
2006-12-08 16:02:07 · answer #3 · answered by 2good4hem 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have every right to be hurt and anger by his actions, blood maybe thicker than water as they say but if your boyfriend was justified in giving your brother the sack then your brother has no right in telling you to choose between them.
This is your brothers problem and hopefully in time he will see that, if not it's still his problem.
Your brothers made his choices let him carry on or loose his sister through his own actions.
2006-12-08 16:27:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say that if he wont accept the fact that you love both of them, to move out and find someone else to give him a home. He was ride and tell him to think about what you bf has done for him and how rude he was. Choose the bf. At least you can trust/love him!
2006-12-08 16:23:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have every right to be pissed, you and your bf were only trying to help. Don't end your relationship because your brother can't get it together. Put him out and let him take care of himself. Keeping him around will only cause problems between you and your bf.
2006-12-08 16:34:20 · answer #6 · answered by cutie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly go with ur bf, because after all he gave ur so called "brother" a job and and paid 5 grand and ur brother has the nerve to say this crap seriuosly what a jackazz for him to say this stuff, stay with ur bf cause there wont be one like this for a long time
2006-12-09 05:01:51 · answer #7 · answered by mikysmith1234 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to keep your bf calm and cool about the whole affair. Let the anger settle down and then try to help your brother again. Afterall he is our brother.
2006-12-08 21:39:45 · answer #8 · answered by Achilles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your boyfriend is gonna be your husband? or is he just paying for your services you know what i mean??? its hard...because....blood is thicker than any man....but if he is going to marry you..and you all talked about marrage in your future than i would choose your bf....your brother is a slaker with no respect for the both of you.....your bro didn't show up for work....so why should you even bother to be on his side......you really know the answer....why are you asking here.....talk to your mother please.....
2006-12-08 16:00:21 · answer #9 · answered by hatchetmistress 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in the title of your question, "brother vs boyfriend", my initial response is of course, brother...blood is thicker than water, right??? But when you explained everything, I think you should give your brother some slap in the face for being so ungrateful.
2006-12-08 15:55:11 · answer #10 · answered by alandicho 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋