when me and my boyfriend first got together everything was great we was like the perfect couple we fall in love with each other he even said that I'm special to him and that he would never do anything to hurt me and he loves me . The next month things changed he stoped calling me usually he would call to tell me where he's at and asks me what am doing and that he loves me and he will call me when he get home but he dont do the those things he used to do anymore . He also started to lieing to me and one time I cought him in his lie and my best friend is tellin me to break up with him and in my heart I have to break up with him but I love him to much to do that .. But something in me is tellin me that i need to and just because my best friend say's that I should break up with him thats not why am saying that . Before I even asked her something was tellin me to do so but i just cant do it cause i dont want to lose him i love him but i also dont know what to do...
2006-12-08 15:43:01 · 15 answers · asked by Golden Honey 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
People have a tendency to put their best attributes on display at first so it would take some time to learn the real person. It is usually around three months when it becomes noticeable that the real person is making it's way to the surface. You have to expect some degree of dimming the shine on the knight's armour.
It all depends on you but then there is the lying thing. I can't deal with anyone who lies so that would be the end of it there for me.
2006-12-08 15:54:20 · answer #1 · answered by A B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-25 00:17:59 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me that you and I are going through the same exact problem. My boyfriend is like that too. How I deal with it...I told him how I felt about it. Of course he thought I was just making a big deal about everything and trying to pick a fight. That was on the phone. But the next day we hung out and I looked him in the eyes and told him that things were changing. I told him that I felt like I needed to break up with him. He didn't want that. well eventually I did break up with him but I took him back because he swore to me he changed. But now he's back to his old ways. Hun, I know it'll hurt but it'll hurt worse if you hold on. After awhile you're gonna realize that you are too good for this guy and you can get better. I've realized that but for some reason, I still can't break up with my bf because he brings a sense of security to me.
2006-12-08 15:50:03 · answer #3 · answered by Skyla 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you guys got too close, too fast, and he's looking for a bit of freedom. It's normal for relationships to cool down a little, but the lying is not a good sign.
Give him some space for the next while, and see what moves he makes. You should be able to tell then exactly what you should do.
Also, do not expect a guy to call you all the time, telling you what he's up to. That's the sort of thing a child does to their mother, not a grown man to his girlfriend.
2006-12-08 15:46:44 · answer #4 · answered by shaclare 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem with this situation is the fact that you think he loves you, when you caught him lieing to you. I don't care what nobody says men don't lie because they are thinking about your feelings. Although your heart is telling you not to leave him, you do not want to be made a fool of. This is just a lesson learned their are plenty other fish in the sea. Some that will treat you with the ut most respect and not lie to you.
2006-12-08 15:49:49 · answer #5 · answered by 2good4hem 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you've already lost him, It is what it is don't allow yourself to be fooled or played with life is to short do something different stop waiting on the phone call girl. Start doing yourself a favor and prepare to move on. He will notice just as you have and either he'll work at rebuilding your faith in the relationship or it will be what it is.
Don't allow your heart to be held hostage by someone you already see doubt in. Your in control not him.
Good Luck
2006-12-08 16:01:02 · answer #6 · answered by Reenell W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he is cheating on u. u need to loose him. He isn't worth this much confusion. Trust me i have been dealing with this for the last 3 months. U need to go somewhere alone and tell every1 else to p*** off and let u think by urself. Think of wat u want and if he can help with that. He might say he loves u but does he really. Think about it!!
If u think not don't just dump him ask him. if he lies again dump him.
It is all up to u
No1 else
Best wishes with this.
Hope u make the right decision.
Cat
2006-12-08 15:47:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi as we know and see ppl do change if they want to if he loves then he would never stop telling you. allways you need to think open and remmber your own needs of cose you dont wanna be hurt ever so be hes friend but with open eyes and remmber the chance of getting hurt is allways real its in the ways you deal with your own feelings that matters just as hes free to say do or lie as well never stop putting u first just to safe gard your own feelings as im sure he is and really good friends are allways there when we need them the most allways remmber that to.
2006-12-08 15:58:02 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Always trust your gut instincts. Love isn't always enough to hold a relationship together--and you deserve better than this. Don't settle for less than you want. Be true to yourself.
2006-12-08 15:51:35 · answer #9 · answered by Maybalee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you doubt his love at all, in a sense you already did break up with him in your heart but are hesitating it physically.
2006-12-08 15:46:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋